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Before you read this post, I should warn you…I have a real thing about kids growing up too fast. I hate it. I don’t like the fact that so many kids seem to have better phones than I do. I don’t like the fact that many have girlfriends and boyfriends before puberty. As the mother of two little girls, ages two and four, I especially despise the fact that a lot of little girls wear make-up.

I know a lot of people out there think it’s really cute to put some eyes shadow and lip gloss on their little ones. Can I ask why? Aren’t they cute enough without it?

I’ll admit, as an adult I wear make-up. But, anyone who knows me can vouch for the fact that I’m not big on it. I really don’t know why I wear it. I guess because I want to? Truth be told, many days I don’t wear any at all. But still, I’ve had my girls come over and reach for a make-up brush out of my bag because they want to be like mommy. I grab it right out of their hands.

“But Mommy, I want to be beautiful,” whines my four-year-old.

“You already are. You don’t need it, ” I reply.

It’s sad that a girl that young thinks she needs make-up to be beautiful. Sometimes I blame myself. Should I not wear make-up? Should I just let her try some anyway? What’s a mom to do?

My daughter takes dance lessons and recently saw a lot of girls in her school all made up for their pictures. This was my first experience with the whole dance thing. I was never a dancer as a I child. Shocker, I know. I’m not a “dance mom” in the stereotypical sense and neither are a lot of the other women there. But, I guess in the “dance culture” this is what happens. Eye shadow, mascara, glitter, fake eyelashes, and lip stick are more the norm than the exception. Hmmm. My daughter did notice all the glitz and glamour, but did not once ask me if she could have some or why she didn’t in the first place. Score one for me, I guess. I suppose there’s no harm in getting all “made up” for these special occasions, but I’m still not 100% convinced. I just don’t see who benefits from it all.

Maybe I’m just a Debbie Gibson living in a Lady Gaga world hoping they still made “Electric Youth” perfume. I don’t know. I do know that I’m definitely starting to believe that raising girls is harder than raising boys! I also know that we need to start teaching little girls that make-up doesn’t make you beautiful. Having a good heart and being a good person is where true beauty lies. So, how do I convince everyone else? I guess I’ll have to take it one Cover Girl at a time.

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Comment by Sandra LeClair on August 17, 2014 at 7:26pm
I'm the mother of three, 2 girls 7 and 1 years old, I love to wear make up but I don't like to see young girls wearing it, I think there's a time for everything, my older daughter dances but she only uses make up for picture day and recital. She has even asked me about painting her nails because her friends in school have them done, I just don't like it, I have explained to her that she's so beautiful and and her skin it's so fresh that she doesn't need any of that that when she comes of age I would take her to the store and buy her all of the things that she want, I told her that i know that other little girls do it, but she's my little girl and my job it's to protect her childhood and innocence as long as I can
Comment by Katie, Mom365 Host on June 3, 2014 at 5:53am
Electric Youth perfume! I remember that stuff :)
Great post here, I think you're touching on something many moms of girls think about. My little girl is only three months old, but I already worry that we tell her she is "cute" too often and stress her appearance more than we did with my son (I'm not sure if it's true, I know we told my son he was cute all the time as well but with a boy it feels less loaded). I try to tell her she is smart/funny/sweet as often as I comment on her appearance but it doesn't come as naturally (she is just a tiny baby after all). I'm trying not to complain about my weight or body in front of either of my kids as well. I do wear makeup everyday--as does my mom and sisters--I just think I look so much better with it on. I used to wear it to look good for guys, it's true. It's a little sad but it's also biology--women are wired to want to attract men. Does that mean little girls should wear makeup? I don't think so. I don't think I would make up my little girl for dance photos. She'll have to wait until a specific age before I let her, even for special occasions.

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