BLOGGING WHILE BREASTFEEDING a friend of mine told me that a woman's body releases a hormone that makes her forget the trauma of child birth. now that i've had a baby i'm starting to think it's true. it quite possibly extends to the last few miserable months of pregnancy as well. tommy is three months old and i already almost forget what being 9 months pregnant in july feels like. and even though post-partum recovery was horrific (no help lined up when it was all i could do to lift and nurse tommy and a steel reserve to not take any meds no matter how many times i had to go up and down the steps) it's starting to fade into a distant memory. for the first few weeks i thought any woman who has more than one kid is certifiable.
it seems that the longer it's been since a woman had a baby, the less she actually remembers about babies. the worst advice comes from grandmothers and great-grandmothers. and i'm not talking 90 year olds. things like 'your (underweight) baby is hungry all the time! you need to put cereal in his bottle! at least one tablespoon!'. ummm yeahhhhh...he's 3 weeks old...i don't think so. or her other demand, which was to just give him water in his bottle. really? his grandmother refused to change his diapers saying i had more experience than her. again, at 3 weeks. really? has diaper-changing changed that drastically in the past 25 or so years? at 3 weeks i was also getting 'i can't believe he's not sleeping through the night yet!'. c'mon now. i am baby-challenged and i at least know they don't sleep through the night, especially that young. but the more people it comes up in conversation with, the more people tell me they're pretty sure their babies slept through the night within the first few weeks of birth. diaper rash must have been quite an epidemic. unless a baby had colic, no one can conjure a single unpleasant experience.
if i talk to someone with a child born within a year or so of mine, it's all about how tough babies are and lack of sleep and inability to sit and eat a meal or sneaking in a shower. endless poopy diapers and getting peed on. hours and hours of children's television programming (thank goodness for sprout!). crying the entire duration of every car ride. having to drive around the block cuz it's the only thing that keeps the baby from crying.
if you don't remember any of these things happening, then your parenting advice probably isn't going to be helpful. it is especially not helpful when you get angry and insist that you did whatever with your children and that i don't see anything wrong with them. i usually do and am too non-confrontational to point out your shortcomings as a parent. if you really feel the need to get in my face and argue about whether or not i use your advice is a personal attack on what you did when you raised your kids, then ISAYGOODDAY!