I know this is kinda personal but I need someone else's opinion. With me and my husband thing are not the same I find messages on Facebook where he is talking to girls. And I have been feeling that our love is fadding fast with in the last six months I have been more depressed then in my life and if u knew me u would know that it is bad. I started hanging out with a friend and her brother and her brother makes me feel like my husband should. I don't like him more than a friend but I also wish my husband would make me feel that way. Is that wrong. I'm starting my first job in three years Thursday and I know it will my mind in a better state. I have tryed to talk to him but he doesn't wanna talk about anything. He just wants to sleep. He's gone all week and comes home on weekends. I'm confused on what to do I want him to be there to watch his son grow up but at the same time I don't want to be miserable my whole life.
Talk to your husband about how you are feeling!! Tell him you dont want to fight, you just want to make things better...maybe he is feeling disconnected too. Having a baby changes a relationship so much! You have to figure out new ways to make it work. But communication is the key to a successful marriage! Good Luck!!
Hello! I had a problem like yours after I had my 2nd child. I tried talking to my husband, but he wouldn't listen either. SO, what I did was randomly leave him with the kids one weekend for a few hours AND I cut my cell phone off! I also did not go to my regular places so he could NOT locate me. (I just walked around in walmart across town & took myself to lunch.) lol! BUT it did give him an idea of what I went through daily with the kids. THAT got his attention...(albeit the wrong way, but hey..it worked.) THEN he decided to talk to me. We got a lot of stuff off our chests. HE felt like I didn't have time for him anymore because I poured soooo much time into the new baby & my other son. It made him feel like I didn't want him anymore and that he was competing for me with the kids and he couldn't win. SOOOO maybe you might want to set aside time just for him when he comes home to make him feel wanted again... (men are just as needy, but they wont say that! WE are suppose to read their minds...go figure!) BUT I hope this helps. It helped me.
You need to confront your husband about the Facebook thing, totally unacceptable... a form of cheating, if he is doing that I can only imagine what his phone looks like, or what he is up to out of town. I hope you have enough self esteem to know you deserve more! I think you seem to know the answer in your heart already but you really don't want to face it because it means your son having divorced parents. But I think what you need to remember is that having a son with a happy mom, is much better than having a son with a depressed mom. Not to mention the atmosphere at home is going to quickly deteriorate if in fact you and your husband are on emotionally separated (as it sounds like you already are) and you don't want your son to have to be affected by that... If you really believe in your marriage don't give up and fight for it, but it doesn't sound like he deserves that.
Have you tried counseling? Sometimes you can’t make things work out. I love my husband but at the same time I love, myself more. If you feel he’s fading away you need to worry about you and your baby. God will only give as much as you can handle. Try counseling and if that doesn’t work maybe separation is what you guys need. He needs to want to be with you as much as you want to be with him for things to work out... I hope things get better.....