Parenting While Grieving

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Comment by Hotmommy0511 on February 5, 2012 at 8:26pm

Hi Everyone my name is Keyonna and I would like to  tell every member that im sorry for your loss, I know its hard to deal with the loss of a loved... My dad passed  away when I was 6 months pregnant with my son 1-10-11( he was with me the day I found out I was having a Boy, so thankful for that) and then my grandfather passed away 10 hrs before I had my son.

Comment by momof08 on January 18, 2012 at 12:56am

hello Megan so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. God must have given your mother a gift to be able to have seen your baby. We were unable to bring our son home from ob, but it helps me to think that he was at home for 34 weeks just covered by a few layers of skin, he could hear all of our voices and what went on at home. I got to mother him but for only a short time. Your little girl was able to hear her grandmothers voice, and your mother was able to watch her grow. I was not able to mother my son as long as I wanted to, but I am so very happy I was able to have him a part of my life. On day when your daughter is older you can tell her the story of her grandma and how she knew you were a girl. God bless

Comment by Megan Sheehan on January 11, 2012 at 7:45pm

Hello.  My name is Megan.  I found out I was pregnant after my mother had been in ICU for 3 weeks.  Her illness was very sudden and unexpected.  I am an only child and she was a single parent.  We were unbelievably close, she was definetly my best friend.  She was in ICU for 6 weeks and then moved to a long term acute care facility where they began to wean her off of the ventilator.  When she was finally able to speak one of the first things she said to me was, "how is Megans baby?" (I had not told her yet that I was pregnant)  I said, "Mom, I am Megan"  she said "I know, how is your baby?"  I said, "I don't have a baby yet, but I am pregnant!" We cried and hugged, she wanted to be a granmother for so long!  Then I asked her if she had seen the baby and she said "Yes, it's a girl"  Well, the ultrasound 3 months later confirmed that yes, ITS A GIRL!  Tragically, she never made it home, she was moved from that facility to a rehabilitation center, but then got very ill again and moved back to ICU, then back to rehab, then back to ICU and she finally lost her battle in October when I was 8 months.  She fought SO hard to see this baby girl and it is so hard not to have her to call and ask questions and share stories.  I am comforted by the knowledge that she isnt suffering anymore, but I miss her so much.  I never grieved while pregnant because I was terrified that my emotional state would have ill effects on the baby.  It is bittersweet to lose the person you loved the most and then months later meet this new baby that you love more than you knew was possible!  I dont know how to gieve now because I feel guilty for being sad when I was just given such a blessing ,,,,