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Comment by KarlieHeart216 on January 28, 2013 at 9:43am

Im sorry you guys I VENT!!! lol

Comment by KarlieHeart216 on January 28, 2013 at 9:42am

Im so sorry that your man is such a douche @ravenwolf837, sounds a little like my childrens father/boyfriend. He calls me out my name tells me Im a bad mother and that Im lame because Im not working, then expects me to bend over backwards and open my legs whenever he sees fit. But Im so not for that, so recently I just started really expressing how I feel, he's boring, combative, unattentive, insensitive, obsessive, and controlling. I just cant take it, but I love him so much then he turns around and tries to play the whole nice guy role. I hate it so much, he has these severe mood swings and we barely do anything together and he wonders why I may seem unhappy some days. He rubs it in my face that he's working and he's the provider and goes to school, when Im at home taking care of the kids and I had a baby by c-section 5 months ago and Im still not healed right. I always have my kids, no car, I dont have friends here, or that much support at all, so its really hard to damn near impossible for me to to what I want or need to. Then the days he could be helping me out he's out and about having fun and chilling with everyone, so where is my help??? It really hurts my feelings to have my man talk down on me like I aint shit just because Im at home taking care of my kids, its not like I dont want to work, and he makes it seem as if I dont do anything ever when that is so not the case. Im at a lose/lose situation he holds on to what I say with all his might.... smh!!!!! We got into it last night because i told him it doesnt benefit me talking to him because he's always trying to push my buttons, but its not okay for me to hold on to the foul things he says and does to me. You tell me Im raggedy, a horrible mother, Im lame/wack/ triffling, and Im tit for tat trying to hurt him like he did years ago. Like Im not holding on to that stuff how he's cheated, lied, stole from me, never came home at night, made me get fired from a job, got me pregnant and dumped me...but I cant hold on or even mention any of that. So now he acts all insecure like Im gonna do all those things to him or something, when i clearly had my chances and havent done a thing yet. Everyday we argue (the reason why my kids are not with me), he hasnt taken anger management which he clearly needs, he acts like his little job pays for so much and he's never purchased clothes for my girls, paid a full amount of rent, he's paid two bills since we've ever lived together but he wants to throw something in my face. Now since I been so honest about my feelings he wakes up today on 10 ready to argue and Im so fed up with his shit i told him it is over, so he goes all off on the deep end dogging me out in front of my 6 yo right before i take her to the bus, now who the hell does that???? Then I come back and he's like so whats your plans for today like he's my dad or something, and who the hell is watching my kids??? I really do not like him right now I so through....ugh!!!

Comment by Kalina's Mommy on January 15, 2013 at 1:57am

I'm sorry ravenwolf837... I'm 25 years old and me and my husband decided to have kids right after we got married it was a perfect wedding and we have our dream house and no financial problems. I decided to be a stay at home mom and he supported it. Nowall he wants to do is go to work come home and eat then go to bed. He thinks since I stay at home I need to take care of our 2,000 sq ft house myself our 3 month old baby and our puppy while going to school to get my masters. Oh and to top it all off we never completely moved in before our baby was born. I take care of everything finances, shopping since I make home cooked meals, everything! I stay up till 3 am everyday trying to get things done. He never has to wake up at night to take care of our baby but I'm the one that supposley does nothing. He thinks he can treat me like shit since I don't work anymore. He even gone as far as saying I need to breast feed and cook at the same time (our baby doesn't take a bottle so I can't pump.) right after I gave birth I came home from the hospital 12 hours later and he expected me to be super mom right off the bat and I was in so much pain from taring I couldn't move very well (I did no Meds during labor and gave a natural birth and my recovery was the bad part) Any time I ask him to hold our baby he says "ugh come on!" when she starts crying or says she has to just deal with not being comfy if he is comfy and she isn't. I don't want to give up my dream life but I can't be someone's slave I hate my life but do I put up with him to give my little girl the life she deserves

Comment by ravenwolf837 on December 20, 2012 at 9:32am

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I wish i had an answer for you but i'm in a bad situation myself and don't know what to do either. Best of luck to you.

Comment by KarlieHeart216 on December 20, 2012 at 2:13am

Hi everyone Im Karla, a 26 yo mother of 4. Im struggling with my boyfriend of 4 years, we constantly argue day in and out over everything. I feel the issue is he likes to always be right about everything which makes it hard to express myself without a debate. He is a bit hot headed so our arguements end up as big blow ups and I try to find the quickest excape, to either leave or end it. Just recently we got into a really big one where it seemed so bad children services were involved. I tried to walk away from an arguement until things cooled out and walked right around the corner from my house. Just as I turn to walk back home and turn to see him right behind me, which means the children (ages 6, 2, and 3 months) were left unattended. I couldn't believe it, which made it worse is that the police seen us arguing outside and realized it was over our kids which whom he left in the house to come looking for me. The children were fine watching a movie while the baby was napping but they removed my children from my home and placed them with my boyfriends sister until we get our relationship under control. We've had our many issues as most couples do, and we overcome it all, its just all this arguing ended us up in the worst of situations and then some. He also had a warrant out from missing a court date because the same day we had a meeting with children services to see what all we needed to do to get our children back. The other night he was on his way to his brothers and the police pulled him and his uncle over, a routine stop I take it and they arrested. Its got me in such a damper, my daughters are asking where he is and I just cant tell his little girls that their daddy wont be home for Christmas or New Years because I cant come up with $250.00 to bail him out. Its really stressing me out with him being the bread winner of the house, bills racking up and rent is right around the corner I dont know what to do. Im a stay at home mom with no family here in Columbus, Oh. even if I did start a job today that isnt gonna get him home or pay all this stuff off when its due. My mind is super frazzled right now, Im gonna spend Christmas alone, my kids cant come home for 30 days and who knows how many days he'll be in jail until his charge is payed off. Well it feels good to vent a little and I have to find out something fast, I just want my family back togehter and be able to work on my relationship with the man I love. Thats all for now, to whomever reading this thanks for taking an intrest in my lifes issues and if there is any advice or comments dont hesitate to respond

Comment by sherry lynn hinson on July 2, 2012 at 12:51am

hey i just read your comment and here are my thought's.get away from him soon as you can.i been with a guy for 5 years and he done the whole texting,calling,meeting women,meeting women off craigslist,even had 2 std and never told me till i hired a PI and found out the ugly truth.i have 6 kids from a marriage and we are divorced and the guy i'm with now and talking about now we have 1 son together he is the one whom done all this bad stuff.as we were into 4 years of this relationship not once had he told me the truth the pi gave me.he asked me for another year and aug.21,2010 will be that extra year i gave him and guess what? it's not here yet and he hasn't done it.so sound's like these 2 guy's must be related in the CHEATER'S" world.drop him and move on. i'm dropping my guy tommrow and moving on.it will be me and my 7 kids and i been praying.also i been listening to the song "Stronger" by Sara Evans.listen to it.it has really inspired me. i will pray for you.you can do this girl get away from him. i'm here from ya.

Comment by Jenn1210 on July 1, 2012 at 11:43am

Hi everyone...glad i found this group...i have been racking my brain and was looking for some insight. I have 5.5 week old twin boys with my boyfriend.  We have been seeing each other off and on for 4 years...once we found out i was pregnant we decided to become monogamous and give us a chance to be a family. We even bought a house together.  Once we moved in he went through what you can call an "acting out stage."  From that point, things have been difficult and I even went into preterm labor and almost had the boys at 31 weeks.  After being in the hospital and they were able to stop the contractions and I was able to hold the pregnancy until 36 weeks.  My preterm labor was caused when for the first time in my life I checked his cell phone and found more than i could have ever imagined.  He denies cheating with these girls and rather he was just flirting through the texts but I don't believe him and can't seem to get passed this. I still glance at his phone from time to time and when I see a female texting him I automatically assume he's doing something wrong and we fight all over again.  How are you suppose to build back trust for someone that has hurt you so much??? 

Comment by ravenwolf837 on June 27, 2012 at 11:13am

my husband thinks he shouldn't help me. that i should be supermom and do everything. i ask him to tend to OUR son while i pump and he said no then last night he did but the intire time he kept asking 'are you done it. are you done it?' 'i thought you would be done by now' he thinks i should stop breastfeeding b/c it inconvent to him b/c i pump. i tell him no. i have our son on a schedule but my husband tries to change it b/c it doesn't evolve around him, it is inconvent to him. i can't even drive my own car. he pretty much makes me stay home said say i should like it. that since i don't work i shouldn't be able to go anywhere. i want to do some school at home (medical billing and coding) so i can work from home and i have to have help with that about watching our son while i study and later work but he saids no he wont watch OUR son, he has better, more improtant things to do but yet my mom saids she would help me but he wont let her. i can't get anywhere with him. it's like talking to a wall!! so now were (still) arguing and now he says he doesn't want to have sex. he doesn't even want to act like he likes/loves me. doesn't want to make me feel wanted or happy for that matter. what is up with that? i don't know what to do anymore. sorry for venting i just had to get that off my chest before i 'blow'.

Comment by DanielleG on June 27, 2012 at 10:41am

Ravenwolf men are pigs and I think we have always known it.  They get us into situations that we just can't get out of.  Mine is doing the same to me and it seems tht the more he talks about not having sex the more I don't want to give him any He disgusts me so bad I can't stand to hear is voice or look at him.  It makes me feel horrible because I am a loving person but I just can't deal with his bullshit anymore.  He is so jealous of me going to school that he NEVER has anything nice to say about it. I just found out that I have run out of not only Pell grant money (they cut you off after 6 yrs.) but I am also running out of loan money and the kicker is that I'm only $1070 short to get my bachelors degree.  So I tell him this and all he can say is "what are you going to do with that"...I'd like to tell him "shove it up your a**" but I just leave the room.

Comment by ravenwolf837 on June 22, 2012 at 4:57pm

now he saids he didn't mean it and he was sorry and now he is acting a little better. but he has been doing this for 12 years i really don't know what to do :(

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