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Come on, vent it here. How do you deal with your MIL?

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Comment by sacorra on July 31, 2012 at 9:42am

Lesmi - welcome to the page that gives you a piece of mind haha.. sorry to hear that i know how that is. the best thing you can do is hopefully soon try to move out of the house. you dont need her bad mouthing you behind her back then nice to your face. plus you dont need that stress with your baby. im happy for you and your bf!! that happened to me as well. its hard just try staying away from them as much as you can. 

Comment by Lesmi on July 25, 2012 at 3:58am

Hi, I'm new to the group but hopefully someone with more experience can give me some advice on how to deal with my mother in law. Im 20 yrs old and I have a daughter with her oldest son. We live together in her house and I have truly done my best to win her over but she hasnt liked me since day one. My bf and I went through some issues during my pregnancy that resulted in his arrest and she resents me for it. His sister, at the time tried to console me and told me he deserved everything he got, the next day she was singing a different tune and called me every word she could think of on FB. My bf and I fixed things before the bby was born fortunately but there isnt a day I go by where I dont feel the hatred coming off of my MIL towards me. I thought things had changed and that she had started to like me but shes being so immature and talking bad about me behind my back to ppl that she knows will eventually blab about it to others until it gets to me. What do I do???

Comment by sacorra on March 11, 2012 at 6:11pm

agree D Rock! but does it make them feel better to say this child i held for 9months inside of me and gave birth to (lol) looks like her mommy (me). my husband was blond hair and blue eyes lol oh but somewhere on his side of the family theres someone she got the brown hair from and dark skin it couldnt of been from me even though i looked just like her... hahaha they try to keep me out as much as possible. we see them all the time live by them to, i never see my family but when i want to visit my family that i was very close to they get mad. my MIL and SIL are very jealous people!! if they could take me out of the picture they would, they even used to tell me i was never good enough for there son/brother. i bite my tongue a lot because i love my husband and i know it upsets him when we all fight, he was never even close to them himself till recently, he always has to tell me to ignore them were the better people just let them talk.

Comment by D Rock on March 11, 2012 at 12:36am

It is always difficult when it seems your side of the family is being ignored. My in-laws talk so much about how DS looks like so-and-so on their side but really he is a wonderful mix of both myself and DH. I just wish that my feelings were taken into consideration occationally...sigh.

Comment by sacorra on March 10, 2012 at 2:30am

omg its soo nice to be able to say this i already vented a little today to my sister. i love my husband dearly but our child looks JUST like me!! if i put our pictures together the only thing you can tell is daddies nose everything down to her toes. my MIL and SIL talks about how my daughter looks nothing like me just like her dad and shes going to be a daddies girl so i better not stop her from doing thing like hunting or fishing. uuggghhh i dont know why this bugs me so much. i was a daddies girl me and my husband get along so well cause we like the same things (hunting, fishing) why would i stop my baby girl from wanting to do things with her father, i try biting my tongue but after soo much of it its soo hard to not say anything..  and i see DROCK said something about they have to buy the 1st of everything. this is my time to shine and be a mother let me be the 1st!! she had her chance twice and blew it. just be a grandmother and help with stuff that we need help with!! the other day she even told me she bought diapers for her but will keep them at her house for when shes over there, really cause im not dropping my child off to who ever will watch her like she would do with her son (my husband).  that felt good!! hahaha 

Comment by D Rock on March 8, 2012 at 4:13pm

Agreed! Why do they feel the need to buy the firsts? Didn't they get to do that with their own baby/babies? Also my MIL's style is nothing like my own. I'm not even sure that my ILs really know me at all. They don't really try to talk to me about anything other than the baby now; is he sleeping through the night, when are you going to stop breastfeeding, when are you going to have him baptised...the list goes on and on. The only other thing they talk about is what my DH and SIL did when they were babies. Makes me not enjoy being around them at all. BTW your babes are adorable! Twins must be twice the...everything!

Comment by D Rock on March 8, 2012 at 3:37pm

Viviane G,

It sounds like you have endured some of the same issues as us. The baby is only 6 1/2 months old and they see him more than anyone else. But somehow they always complain about not seeing him enough and not seeing me enough. I don't even see my own parents that often. My mom about once a month and my dad about the same (my parents are divorced and remarried). I have tried to set up rules but, to be honest, my MIL kinda scares me. She has a pretty sharp tongue. When Buggy was a first born and for the first couple of months she referred to him as "my baby boy". That really bothered me and when I asked her to please not call him that anymore she snapped "what baby boy". Another fun example is that my FIL came over last friday for dinner. MIL was sick so she didn't come. DS was down for a nap when FIL first got there. When bub got up, FIL called MIL so she could come down and look at him through our sliding glass door! Then she started crying because she "hasen't seen him in so long". I know that they love him and I want them to be involved in his life but this is beyond anything I have ever experienced. DH does think that they are being ridiculous but he is the good son. His whole life he has been the pleaser in his family. He has an older sister who is not going to have children we are it for the grandkids. And I am kinda old so we don't know if we are going to be able to have any more. It just seems that some people forget what it was like to be parents when they become grandparents. I am so grateful that my own parents don't act like that. I guess that's my consolation prize!

Comment by D Rock on March 7, 2012 at 10:38pm

Hi Mommies with the In Law Issues! I am new here and always looking for ways to better deal with an overbearing MIL and FIL. They live down the street from us and expect to be able to see DS multiple times a week. This wouldn't be a problem if we had done this before bub was born but we barely saw them. All of the sudden they are trying to be up our hineys! It is stressful to me. My hubby doesn't mind (it is his parents after all and we all tolerate stuff that our own parents do) and I don't think enforces "our" rules very well. We are moving as soon as we can sell our house but until then I spend a good amount of time being irritated by the constant pushing. Just looking for a little support!

Comment by First_Time_Mommy_2011 on December 24, 2011 at 10:26pm
Christmas vent time...the things I do for my husband! He had to work till 6 and his moms side of the family we getting together tonight but they live 2 hours away! His parents were pissing me off from the star. They don't seem I realize I live my son and wayne to spend as much time with him as humanly possible. So they asked over a month ago...they watch him while we are at with and they asked if we both had to work if they could take OUR son two hours away on his first Christmas...are you freaking kidding me? NO! But I didn't want to be rude so I said I would try to get out early. It's not that I didn't want him to go I just didnt want him to go without me. It is his first xma which he may not remember but I sure will! And he is my son! I would have just tried to find another sitter if that was the case because I also don't want to stop hem from seeing other family because I have to work...but my MIL ha he guts to say that she didn't want to miss my sons first Xmas. First of all he is my son and I WILL NOT miss any part of his first Xmas....so that was just annoying. But he woman drives me nuts!!! When we were at her families house she says I can take him and give him to my FIL and he will eat and him him at the same time so I can eat. And while I do think it his nice f anyone should have to hold him and eat it should be me. This is just annoying because I am weird and apparently don't appreciate help. Anyways I said I can just do it because I have to walk past him to go get food. So she makes a comment like oh I can't hold him....seriously! She had already been holding him playing with him and introducing him to family before I could! Heven forbid I hold my own son! So then my FIL and MIL sit next to each other and hold my son for me even though I told them they didn't have to and then I get stuck at a completely different table! So one Uncle goes and says he thought I was the one who had a kid! Yeah...you and me both....my in laws jut haven't gotten the memo! And then I just felt like an outcast all night and I had no one to really talk to so it kind of sucked...but no one on that side of the family had met my son yet....but they didn't really even seem to care when we left too....I just can't wait for my days off when I don't have to see my in laws...and the best part about my MIL is that she recently feels comfortable enough with me to complain about her MIL...and sometimes I just wanna shake her and be like you do the same thing you crazy nut!
I know this is really long but I have another vent. The other day I went to pick up my LO and she told me she gave him baby orajel...without asking! I was like wtf. You have to be very careful Of what you give babies and I would not have given it to him at all...ever! And then come to find out she is using Snuggle fabric softner. This is a problem because again I didn't know that she was using it (which is good to know in case my LO is allergic to something) and he had eczema which they say don't use fabric softner or dryer sheets. Mostly I am just annoyed because this is stuff that if going into my sons system and on his body and I don't know because she doesn't tell me. So I tell my husband about he orajel and he agrees that they need to ask...but has he said something to her? No! Which is even more frustrating because he claims that he will....this woman drives me nuts!
Comment by ZACsmommy on November 16, 2011 at 9:59pm
As far as cuddling him and holding, if that's what you want to do than do it! He spend 9 months curled up inside you and after only being out for 4 he shouldn't have to learn the world is a cold hard place. He will eventually sleep on his own and if for some reason he doesn't that is your problem to deal with not hers. They grow up way to fast, my little guy is 10 months and I can't even catch him long enough to cuddle, leaving me to wish I had held and snuggled him more ( which probably wouldn't be possible but still)

Man I have major resentment toward my inlaws - I never realized till I got on my soap box. Lol. Sorry!!
 

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