People are always giving pregnant women their opinions, whether you ask or not. Did you find any of it helpful?
I think the best advice I got was from my midwife. She told me to forget about preparing everything perfectly. She said that babies don't care about much of anything except where the next meal is coming from. As long as they have some place to sleep, some arms to hold them, and milk in their tummy, nothing else matters. She was right, and it really reduced my stress level when I followed her advice.
What have you heard that made you feel better?
Probably sleep when the baby sleeps! I never got anything done, but I was well rested. And some advice I would have loved someone to tell me about before I had baby was how much you bleed after you have the baby. I mean, who knew that blood just pours and pours out of you for days afterwards and you practically have to wear a diaper lol! I sooo wish someone would have filled me in on that little bit of awesomeness....
A family friend told me that she bought a crib when she had her first baby and that the baby slept in it once and then never again. She recommended just getting a pack and play and skipping the crib purchase. My husband and I lived in a small two bedroom townhouse and were pressed for space. Just getting a pack and play ended up being the best bit of advice I received. We didn't have the space for extra bits of furniture. The p'n'p came with a bassinet feature, so we didn't have to buy a bassinet either. The p'n'p was mobile so that when the grandmas came to visit, it was super easy to have baby room in with us so grandma had her own space to sleep.
Her advice made me rethink a lot of my purchases for baby. Was I buying something because of the hype, or because it was something that was genuinely going to be used? Did I honestly need a whole new piece of furniture dedicated to being a changing table, or could I repurpose something else I already owned? Was it worth it to buy some fancy contraption trashcan for diapers, or would a regular old trashcan with a lid do?
It really took out some of the sticker shock that came with the knowledge that I was having a baby and that babies are notoriously expensive. ;3 It was good too, because I could take some of the money that we saved and put it towards my daughter's college fund.
Couldn't agree more! I never had a changing table with my daughter. I never would have used it, especially at first because I would just change her in whatever room we were in at the time. Which makes the diaper genie useless because I would just toss the diaper in the trash in whatever room I changed her in. Why walk across the house to use a certain trash can? I changed the garbage bags often enough that the stinky ones were never a problem.
I couldn't agree more too!! The first pregnancy- everything had to be brand new and I had to have every baby contraption known to man, name brand of course- and yes we had that diaper genie too! The 2nd pregnancy- my boss gave me all his sons old baby furniture, we used a basic trashcan w/ a lid, almost all their clothes from newborn to 2T was/is second hand given to us, OH and the best discovery of all is that I realized the off brand diapers work just as good (if not better!) than the name brand!
Don't stress! Especially with your first baby, every little thing can seem blown out of proportion. Your instincts are amazing, all you have to do is tap into them. Within the first week I knew most of my daughter's cues, so it was easy to tell what was wrong and what would fix the problem. I knew when something was serious enough to call the doctor.
Your water doesn't break in one big gush like in the movies, while in the hospital, send the baby to the nursery and get some sleep at night, accept help when people offer, and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it!
A co-worker and new dad gave me the Happiest Baby on the Block DVD, and said that we needed to absolutely live by the soothing methods it teaches. Without that DVD, I'm sure it would have taken me a much longer time to figure out how to settle down my baby. I still owe that guy!
Labor will hurt but don't be afraid. People told me horror stories about labor and I was scared to death. It is not as bad as some ppl let on.
One of the best advice I received was from my co-worker who asked me to invest in some good nursing bras. I got couple of very comfortable ones and I feel so good when I am engorged! Makes it easier to nurse my LO during nights.