Community
Travel WITHOUT kids
So, my husband and I are planning a skiing trip in Feb 2013. We will not be taking our 14 month old son along. I am actually having anxiety already thinking about this. We will be gone for 1 week, and he is staying at my mother's house that week. We will have our iPads to facetime each other every night, but I am already uneasy about leaving him for 7 whole days. I've left him for a weekend before and was okay, but missed him every second. We want to get this trip in because we know this will probably be our last trip like this for a long time... as we plan to start trying for #2 when we return.
I work full-time, so I feel awful taking more time away from him. Have other mama's done this? How have you coped with being gone that long? I fear he won't want me when I come back after a week :( Is there anything to leave with him or do. He will be 20 months when we leave for our trip, so I know he won't understand what's going on.
Thanks for any tips!
Replies to This Discussion
-
Permalink Reply by Jen, Mom365 Host on -
Aww momma, go and enjoy yourself. I think that a little break is good for everyone. Heck, I wish I could take a week! I know you're going to miss him, and I know he's going to miss you. You're already going to be having video chats with him, so that's fantastic.
I think it's important for our children to be given time to develop deeper bonds with people other than mom and dad. This is a great opportunity for all of you!
-
Permalink Reply by Erika, Star Mom on -
You should enjoy yourself. I wouldn't be able to do that, but I haven't "cut the cord" so to speak and my son is almost 2. It depends on the parent. Some parents like to have their children with them 24/7 and some want to enjoy vacations alone. And it never makes you a bad parent if that is what you want, and you shouldn't feel guilty. I understand how difficult it would be for sure though! Good Luck with it :)
-
Permalink Reply by Megan Hazelrigg on -
My husband and I recently went on an 8 day vacation to Mexico without our kids (8 years & 14 months old) and I felt guilty doing it also! I had never been away from my 1 year old for even a day so it was very stressful thinking he may forget me or be mad at me when we got back but, like you, we were able to FaceTime every night (sometimes several times a day) so they were able to see and talk to us. I had a few days towards the end that I just wanted to be home but overall it was a great time for me and my husband to reconnect and have time for us. I left a shirt with my perfume on it for him which he slept with everynight, i don't know if that made a difference but I like to think it did! :) When we got back it took all of 5 seconds for him to run and hug us! He was so happy we were home and was not stand offish at all! Have fun and enjoy yourself! Your baby will never know you were gone once your back home!
-
Permalink Reply by sacorra on -
1st off i dont think your son will ever forget about you! your his mother his world!! :) my baby is only 5mths and i left her once for like 20min. went to the store on the corner and my husband had her, i freaked out almost cried. so im not very good at saying everthing will be fine because i understand it is soo hard to leave your baby. i think since its your mother everything will be ok and you'll be able to see him at nights! just stay happy and think positive thoughts. you need your time with your hubby!!
and good luck on baby #2!!! :)
-
Permalink Reply by Shannon, Star Mom on
-
I totally know how you are feeling! We are getting married this October and going for a week long honeymoon after. Our twin boys will be 23 months by then and our daughter is 7 yrs old... we will not be taking them with us either. We wanted a beach trip in the Florida Keys at first, but I think we are settling for North Carolina so we are closer to the kids or if we want to come home early, it won't be such a long drive. I am dreading the anxiety I will have too... I don't even like them staying overnight at the grandparents house b/c I miss them soooo much, so I don't even know how this will go. They will be staying with their Aunt and my mom... I guess us Moms just have to come to the realization that our children will be in good hands and trust that. Anyway, I will let you know how everything goes with us when it comes time!!
The video thing was a great idea... I will be bringing my computer, thanks for the idea!!
-
Permalink Reply by 411mom on -
Thanks for the reassurance :) I like the shirt idea, I am going to have to do that! My husband keeps telling me it's going to be fine, and some time alone with him would be fantastic. So, I just have to trust in that, and know he is with my mom... whom he is with everyday, so I know he is okay. And hopefully seeing me on the computer won't make it too hard on either of us!
-
Permalink Reply by Isaiah K on
-
I think you will be fine, 411mom. Babies need a break from mama, too. I am a SAHmother of a 20 month old who I spent day and night with since he was born. My son went to my mothers' up north. He avoided the heat wave, he played with other kids, he had the time of his life! I, on the other hand, cleaned my house from head to toe! I visited friends Ive been neglecting, and I caught up on much needed sleep.
Its going to be okay. Your baby will be fine. Enjoy yourself. You deserve it!
-
Permalink Reply by mama0313 on
-
are you the one wanting to go without him? or is it your husband? or maybe even your mom is just wanting him for a week to herself? if you don't want to leave him behind then don't. i'm a sahm and even though i like a little mini break were daddy watches lo for an hour or grandma comes over and plays so i can clean, i want my lo with me at all times. the other day the church nursery had lo for about 20 minutes, kinda, i was peaking in the window every couple minutes, didn't even make it to church. i know that is a bit over the top, but i love my baby so much i can't stand to be away from her. my lo is 16m and we are pregnant with our second now, which we knowingly planned and ttc a month ago. we took a trip to the zoo at about 13m. i know i personally had a better time doing that than if i would have went with only hubby anywhere. i know we would just talk about her the whole time anyways. i know we'd worry our selves too much to have fun. my point is it's your vaccation too, so spend it with who you want and how you want. good luck to you whatever you decide. i know for me personally they are going to have to be way older before i can leave for a week, i'm talking teens likely lol.
© 2013 Created by Mom365.
