Community
Tough/sensitive question for you
OK, this is completely hypothetical, so you can't answer with, "oh, I would never be in that situation," and I'm not pregnant so it's not based on my life, so, here is my question for you:
If you were 9 weeks pregnant and found out that you were going to die right at your due date - and since this is totally hypothetical, there is nobody in your family who is able or willing to raise the baby, and you have no stable partner or spouse - would you abort so that you could do whatever you wanted to do, whenever you wanted to do it, with the few months you had left, or, would you stay pregnant and devote your remaining time to finding an adoptive family?
I have to admit, I came up with the question and I'm not sure what I would do. Part of me thinks, heck, if I know I only have around 7 months left to live, I want to go on adventures, and travel and explore. The other part of me thinks I would find greater meaning in my remaining time knowing that a part of me would still be in this world after I'm gone.
I think I'm leaning more toward finding an adoptive family. I want to hear what you think!
Replies to This Discussion
-
Permalink Reply by Shannon, Star Mom on
-
Since I have 3 other kids that need me and since losing their Mom could potentially scar them for the rest of their life, I would choose to abort. My Dad lost his Father at 4 years old, he drowned in a pond (which was very suspicious). He just came to grips w/ it probably about 15 years ago at about 40 years old. It caused so many issues, like he wouldn't even participate in family things like christmas b/c he was so bitter he never had a Father growing up... he only had a mother that worked 3 jobs struggling his entire childhood which left him on his own most of the time (even on holidays... like christmas). He also went through this phase searching every where for answers (drove around everywhere, searched through articles, looked up info from when he was in the navy...) about who his Father was and the whole scenario surrounding his death, he just couldn't understand how a navy man drowned. I would never want my kids to go through that if I could help it, I would never want them to question why I chose to keep a pregnancy knowing I would not make it through for them. If I didn't have any kids, I would do a lot of praying and go on w/ the pregnancy.
-
Permalink Reply by Mommyof4 on -
I don't think the question was that you were going to die because of your pregnancy but it just happened to work out that way that your terminal illness will kill you by your due date. Would you abort if the child isn't the cause of your death?
-
-
Aaaahhhh, you're right! I completely read it wrong! Then I change my answer, I would NEVER abort a child just to enjoy myself (well, I would never abort period the end, unless of course it was the situation I thought it was, where the pregnancy would be the cause of death and leave my other children mother-less)... wow! I actually enjoy being pregnant, so I would enjoy every minute of it!!!!
-
Permalink Reply by EastTexasMommy on -
I could never give away any of my children. No one can betheparent that I am andlove them like I do. Being that I have other children I would find someone that would treat them like I would and have very similar values.
But, if I were single, never married, and no children I don't know if I could make the same choice. I have bad luck and I know bringing a child in the world alone to abandon them is wrong. But so is abortion (unless medically nesessary). But with my luck I would abort or adopt to find out 3 weeks later that so Doc goofed up on my results. I would like to say I could abort bc it would be an injustice to the child but mentally I DON'T THINK I can do that being a mother. This might not be the best crowd for the question. Being that most are momswho could never give up a child... Just a thought...
-
Permalink Reply by tamgia on -
love the question.
I would try to have it all. My LO is 5 mo and I loved being pregnant, it was a wonderful experience. I would document the entire pregnancy for my unborn, going on whatever adventures I could safely, while also finding a family for my baby in the process.
-
Permalink Reply by Jen, Mom365 Host on -
That's definitely a best of both worlds answer. I like it. I'm changing my answer to yours... :)
-
Permalink Reply by Mommyof4 on
-
1. I would never abort - no matter what. I may ask the baby be taken a few days early if she's full term so that I have a couple of days with him/her.
2. I wouldn't want to live in guilt for 7 months that I killed a little person just so I could have fun. Besides, being pregnant is not confining - you can still go out and have fun but within reason. Go on a cruise, take a special trip, etc. There's lots to do and still be able to take care of baby.
3. I would definitely look for the best adoptive family possible and pray that I made the right choice. I would do my best to get to know the family so that they could tell my child that his/her mommy loved him very much and wanted the best for him...even at the expense of herself.
-
Permalink Reply by Bethany Ann, Star Mom on -
I just can't imagine myself aborting my child, unless my cause of death was directly linked to the pregnancy. If I was going to die no matter what, and knew that I had the chance to bring a precious life into the world and find him/her the best possible family to take care of her, that's absolutely what I would do. Me living a few months of pure fun and adventure don't compare to an entire life I'd be bringing that child into. As a parent, you sacrifice for your children.
Now, if my death were to happen because of the pregnancy, and aborting meant I could live as long as God intended...then I would abort. Especially if I had the family I have now. I don't look at that as a selfish act, I look at it as wanting the chance to have a life and a family, and to not cut my life short. I would carry that extreme guilt for the rest of my life, but it's the choice I would make.
© 2013 Created by Mom365.
