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Permalink Reply by xena2456 on -
I was in your shoes once.....he is lying if he says there is nothing wrong..... my husband was watching porn behind my back.... of couse they women was skinny and noting like me at the time since I hadn't lossed the weight from having our 3rd child at that time.......we had rounds when I caught him for the 3nd time.......not talking is a bad sign......I had to leave.... ...our kids saw too much yelling and crying..... him being heartless.... ....but he soon realized that he needes to change to have his family whole....... we saw a marriage couslior and it took years but he is now the best father and husband and we had our 4 child last Nov. 2011..... I pray for you and your family...... talking ia best.....everyday talk about feelings....fears.....hopes.....dreams.....everything...... .if he won't talk.....there is a problem and he might be hiding something..... its not always bad.....maybe he has low T like my husband...... low T made my husband moody and sad.....like a woman going through menopause...... .its a men version..... good luck!!!
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Permalink Reply by EastTexasMommy on -
At some point men do have a decrease in T. There are over the counter test (kinda pricey at pharmacy) or his Dr can do it. When is the last 'kid free' weekend or date ya'll went on? Sometimes alone time can help. My hubby has been a little distant and the prego body really isn't attractive, and the kids moving doesn't help intamacy. Lol so the other night when we laid down for bed, he told me to pick a movie... I put in a porn movie. He was shocked but was all about me. Sometimes it takes something drastic to get a reaction. Talking is also a must but sometime you gotta think out of that box and like he would. Good luck. I'd definitely try date night or kid free time.
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Permalink Reply by Ginger on -
Well, I felt like that when I was pregnant. I t could be a little stressful when u think your mate isnt that sexually attracted to you anymore. But, if he keeps saying your the crazy one but still nothing sexual has happened, then I think its a little more than u being crazy, he may b doing something on the side, but something is diff wrong. Mayb you can try to spice it up a little for him. go get something nice to wear for him one night when u put the kids to bed.. or either try to find a sitter and u plan a night with him and see how that works out..if it doesnt then something more is happening then what he is telling you, nxt step would b a counselor..but try the spice up first and then go to the next phase
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Permalink Reply by Chanelle on -
I agree with everyone else. I would try to spice it up first. If I was you I would send the kids to a sitter before he got home from work and make the mood. Have low light, maybe candles, and either dress really sexy or just be plain naked waiting for him when he gets there. If this doesn't work something is definitely wrong.
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Permalink Reply by janitarose on -
Is he battling depression possibly? Print out an online test for depression and make him answer it honestly. Low to no drive and the tiredness are the top 2 detectors for it. My husband battles with depression, although I do not understand it and why he has it, medication helps him. He is back to normal now.
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Permalink Reply by Valerie F on -
I've been going through the same thing and we only have one child. I've tried talking to him, explaining how I feel, asking him what he needs me to do to make it better. His reply is always the same, he's tired. I'm in decent shape and dress nicely, my hair and makeup is always done. I wonder if it's me and ask him what I can do to change. I've changed alot of things already. I'm at the end of my rope. Sometimes I think he would be just fine if we never had sex again. Hope it works out for you.
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