It sounds like you've got a lot to deal with. My son couldn't fall asleep unless he was sucking on a bottle. It took years to break him of that. Right now my daughter is only 17 months old, and she still nurses to sleep. I don't have any great solutions for you. Your husband isn't wrong to suggest going to the Dr. There might be something you're overlooking that is adding to the stress. Give the pediatrician a call. It won't hurt anything. I hope you find something that works!
I've been having sleep issues with my 7 month old. He is very restless and fidgety and was waking up 3-4 times immediately after he went to sleep and several times through the night. I have a Boba soft carrier for him. He becomes very relaxed in it. I started to take walks with him in it before bedtime to unwind. It is helping. It sounds like your daughter may be over tired as well. I would try doing the same thing with her around 7:30----walk, bath, or whatever may relax her and make sure she's not becoming stimulated. The book, Baby Whisperer, was recommended to me and I just started reading it. I've also heard good things about Elizabeth Pantley's, The No-Cry Sleep Solution. Good Luck
You might try a warm bath right before bedtime. That always helped my little one calm down. The lavender scented bath wash helped also. My best advice is to stick with a consistent bedtime routine. Good luck!
yes, I have the lavendar scent stuff and I do the bathtime thing. Really seems to make her more playful since she likes baths...sigh! I have been sucessful somewhat in at least getting her to sleep and play in the crib instead of screaming. I have to stay in the room with her and it takes a while, but its progress!
I used to have to take my daughter for a drive to get her to fall asleep and that's because it would be 1130 at night and she would just fight sleep and that seemed like the only way to get her down. She has mostly grown out of that now, thank goodness because that is terrible, I feel your pain. Many of my friends have babies that are around the same age and were shocked at how late she would stay up when theirs were going to bed at 730. So I tried and tried to get her to sleep earlier and that seemed to help the problem. I found if I get her to bed to early lets say 830 she will wake up at least 2 times but if I wait an hour to 930 even if she is crabby she will sleep all night. I found that waiting even later the more tired she gets the harder it was for her to fall asleep. I also made a relaxing routine and that really helped because she knows what is coming next andbedtime is near. I feed her a big dinner around 730 to get her tummy nice and full, we relax with her favorite tv cartoon then read some books, then it's bath time with singing (no toys in the tub except the cup and washcloth we use otherwise she gets into play mode). Directly from there we go into her bedroom with low light, turn on her nighttime music and fan, lotion up and put jammies on, then I give her a bottle. Usually she falls asleep while I give her the last bottle and I just stick her in the crib. I hold her for about 15 minutes though before I do that if not she has reflux and she is guaranteed to wake up from squirming around and spitting up. Alot of ppl don't like the idea of having to hold her but it beats having to hear her cry it out just to get her to go to sleep when I can do it in such a short time. Plus I love that time where I just get to hold and snuggle with her.
But I find a few things that are a necessity for us: a noise machine that plays all night (if it is too quiet she wakes up), we also have a fan because despite the air she always seems to overheat, and I found that the night light bothered her so I took that out.
Also when I transitioned her to her crib (around 6 months) I made sure she was comfortable and familiar with her room and crib so she wouldn't be afraid when she would wake up at night. We play in there enough for her to know it's her room but not an overwhelming amount so that she thinks it's play time in the middle of the night!
I hope you get rest soon!
P.S. She is 10 months old and I started the evening 'wind down' routine at about 7 months. There have been nights where she gets up a few times here and there but they seem to come and go in periods so I think during growth spurts or teething. But no problems going to bed..
Thanks Trisha! It sounds like a similar situation. I can't get Olivia to watch TV really she dances at any and all muisc, but other than that she does not really sit and watch. She wants to play around. I have been doing all that other stuff you said with the big dinner and bath and she also needs some music to sleep. I got the lavendar lotion too. Then I give her the bottle. Most times that works, but sometimes she is drinking the bottle and her eyes are shut mostly like she will be asleep at any moment, but then she finishes drinking and sits up wide eyed and points at things and tries to get down and play. Its so weird. I try to put her to bed around 8-830. What I started doing was staying in the room with her and holding her to feed her and put her back in crib, hold her hand if needed. She has gotten a lot better and now will mostly sleep in the crib all night once I get her down for the night. She still wakes up at least twice, but usually will go right back to sleep after some bottle. Supposedly the doctor says she shouldn't need a bottle in the night, but she still wants it and sometimes that is the only way to get her back to sleep. I think that all babies are different and trying to go with the flow and remain sane! I love her so much!
You mentioned that she wakes up if you try to get up and leave, have you tried maybe having something that smells like you with her? Perhaps leave the tshirt you wore that day in with her or carry a stuffed animal or blankie that she may sleep with under your shirt for awhile and leave it for her to snuggle with? They all have their own little personalities and what works with one surely doesn't work for all. Whenever things get tough because of lack of sleep i just remind myself 'this is just temporary' to have a better outlook..lol usually helps!