relax and use lube. we were having sex again when my baby was 2 weeks we just took it really slow and easy you take control of the situation and do what you can. or be intimate in other ways so you husband is satisfied.
yah well it has tightened back up you have to stretch it sorry kind graphic but try one finger 2 than maybe parshal penis you have to work at it constantly to get it stretched back out your anxiety is not helping either have a couple glasses of wine get a babysitter for 2 hr(grandma&grandpa) and try
I'd check with the Dr. It could be hormonal, but if you tore, maybe they stitched you up wrong. Wouldn't hurt to have a Dr. check to make sure everything is as it should be.
Try working yourself up. Start by doing a massage with lube, just gently stretch the area once or twice a day to get it "loose" and moisturized. Try some foreplay without the sex, so your husband and yourself can still be intimate without the painful penetration. Ease yourself slowly into the sex. Try taking "him" a little amount at a time, just as much as you can handle. It's possible that when you were stitched up, they stitched you tighter than you were before, so that can add a lot of pain if your opening is smaller than it used to be, and needs to adjust to it. If you still continue with your pain, definitely talk to your Dr. and have it checked out to make sure there isn't something more...but a lot of women can take a long time to heal enough to not feel pain. And also remember, it will hurt the first few times, you'll be sore. Just load up on the lube, work yourself up to it, and try not to stress because when your nerves are tight, your body is tight, and that makes it worse.
My husband and I did it 5 weeks after having our daughter, and it hurt like hell! We didn't get very far...but I did what I suggested you do. A few weeks later, after a ton of "prepping" it went smoother, and we kept taking it slow until I was completely pain-free. I really hope that works for you! But just remember to never compare your body to anyone else's. Everyone heals at a different pace, in a different way, with different solutions. Trial and error :-) Good luck!
Oh my gosh I thought I was the only one in the world with this problem!! I have seen Dr after Dr about it, my son is almost 2 and we were just able to have sex last night for the 1st time pain free. Every time I see my Dr or an OBGYN regarding the issue they look up there and say everything is fine. My last Pap was about a month ago, I went to a new OBGYN to get yet another opinion, she also said everything was fine but ordered an ultrasound to check for cysts. I have not had it yet and will probably cancel it because I think my problem has been solved. A couple of days after my pap I started my period for the 1st time since before my son was born, I got very sick with this period and bled so bad I had to go to urgent care to get a shot of hormones to stop the bleeding. The urgent care Dr said my hormones were all out of whack from not having a period for so long, which was because I am still breastfeeding. A couple weeks later I felt different, I had a higher sex drive and felt like we needed to try it out so we did and the pain was gone. Not sure if it was getting my period, or the shot, or the pap but this is what happened with me. I hope it helps :)
You gotta take it slow and everyday work at stretching it out.