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POTTY TRAINING IN ONE DAY!!! or less!
Everyone has been ranting about this wonderful method! By, who else, Dr.Phil! The man who I'm sure potty trained his kids in less than a day!! (sarcasm).
Anyway I read up on the methods and some of this sounds wonderful, like giving lots of fluids and placing them on the potty every 30 minutes! But please please please... my daughter goes to a urologist and you cannot punish your child for accidents!!!!! This will cause them to feel ashamed or embarrassed and then hold their urine, eventually causing infections or anguish! It is ok to ENCOURAGE your child to get to the potty as quickly as possible, but it is not ok to punish them for mishaps!
For example: it says if your child pees their pants to make them go through the motions 9 times (pull down pants, sit on potty, pull up pants). I don't know about you but I would HATE to go potty after that, so I'm sure my 2 year old would feel the same way! In turn a child's brain would say "if I hold it and don't get near that dreaded potty at all then everyone will be happy!" It is so unhealthy and eventually can cause big problems for kids that are taught potty accidents are BAD and they will be punished for them!
Encourage your little one to pee or poop on the potty and praise them when they do! We do MnMs or stickers, but if they have an accident - put them on the potty and tell them something like "try to tell mommy if you need to go, but it's ok we will practice some more!"
I was appalled by Dr.Phil's take on this situation and the fact that it says "behavior comes with consequence" like they pee on themselves on purpose! (sometimes I wonder if Dr.Phil follows any of the advice he puts out there!)
THERE ARE BETTER WAYS TO HANDLE THINGS! Now that I've ranted, I will say we will be trying some of the pointers from him, but not the punishment part! Oh and one question...
If you put your baby on the potty every 30 minutes - how long should you have them sit there? I was told not to make her sit if she didn't want to and that's fine, but she WANTS to sit there and will for hours if I'd let her! So I need a limit or we'll be on the potty all day!!!
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Permalink Reply by Janna Pyle on -
There is a much better program out there called "3 Day Potty Training" by Lara Jensen. It emphasizes just what you said - NEVER EVER EVER punishing a child for an accident. You simply tell them "Try to keep your underpants dry and tell mommy before you have to go potty, ok." You don't scold them or be negative with them about it. Extra fluids to give them more opportunities to know what it feels like to have to go, but not forcing them to drink. Rewards for finishing in the potty or making to to the potty. Some babies get it the 1st day. Some take more like 5 days, but either way it is a positive experience for the baby and parent instead of scaring the baby with fear of punishment if they have an accident.
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Permalink Reply by lkarr1125@yahoo.com on
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WTFreak! I have never heard this before. This sounds like tortue and punishment! To go poddy? I mean come on I new I did not watch tv for a reason. My son is 16 months. I ask him if he wants to go poddy and try to sit him on it, he says no so I go with it. I am not going to torture him!
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Permalink Reply by MamaB on
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The time limit is really up to you and your situation. In the beginning when I was just trying to get my daughter used to the potty we would sit and read and do puzzles for like 15 mins- sometimes she peed sometimes she didn't but it was purely coincidental if she did. When we were seriously potty training I made the rule of no toys or books on the potty (because it was not play time- the potty is for pooping or peeing only) and would make her sit for at least 1 min to try. This was at the point when I was taking her every 30 mins- so you can imagine if I let her sit for 10 mins we'd never have gotten anything done! Sometimes it was a fight to get her stay put for 1 min even but it all worked out in the end. It took us several months and her deciding it was time for it to finally work so I don't know about those other methods. Good luck!
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Permalink Reply by Mrs. Aa on -
May I just say I think this Dr. Phil is absolutely INSANE?!
Punishing a child for not being able to make it to the potty, REALLY?
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Permalink Reply by marialynn on
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that's ridiculous......having an accident is NOT bad behavior!!! especially if the toddler is in a stressful situation....Dr. Phil needs some parenting advice....
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Permalink Reply by Cindy Smith on
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I'm still trying to figure out if now is a good time to even try to potty train. My son will be 2 soon. He has sat on his potty but with his pants on and is still getting to be comfortable with it. However, when I try to sit him on the potty he won't stay.
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Permalink Reply by Janna Pyle on
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The "3-Day Potty Training" program suggests you wait until they are at least 22 months. It really is worth it to get the book. She says not to put them on the potty "just to try". They need to know what it feels like to have to go and if you do the timer method you are really just training them to go sit every 30 minutes or hour or whatever and not to respond to their body's signals that they have to go. It means a few (ok, sometimes ALOT) of accidents the first couple days, but they do get it. Some babies take 4 or 5 days to really get it but even 5 days is WAY better than the months and months that most methods take and this method is designed to be a positive experience for the baby AND the parents (unlike the rot that Dr. Phil put out!!).
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Permalink Reply by Katie Jones on
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I would agree that the going every 30 minutes method, in and of itself, is not very helpful. I tried it for a few days with my 18 month old and a 22 month old (both girls) that I watch. Granted I was still using diapers because I don't babysit in my home and there is carpet. However, after a couple hours of going every 30 minutes, both the girls and I were very tired of it. Every half hour I was taking pants and diapers off, sitting them on the potty for a few minutes then having to get them completely dressed again. Plus, I always missed them going. They'd sit on the potty, not go, then half an hour later when we went back they'd have gone in their diaper. I babysit M-W and have 4 day weekends so I decided to modify the method I was using. I will preface this by saying I just tried this this weekend and my daughter is not yet potty trained. My house has all hard floors on the first floor so Avery went naked while awake for 2 1/2 day0s. She always had a sippy cup of water available to her but I didn't push it and I did try to get her to sit on potty (which I left in the living room with us) every 30-45 minutes and rewarded with m&ms for trying. She had 4 accidents on the floor the first day. We only made it to the potty at the end of one accident not counting poops which I knew ahead of time she was doing and got her to sit down. The second day when she had to go she started to get really upset and came over to me, whining and leaking a little. I tried to get her to sit on the little potty but she wouldn't stay so we took the seat off the little one and went and sat on the big potty. She didn't want to go on that one either but she at least couldn't get down and we had 2 or 3 successful potty trips. We would have tried for the full 4 days but some things came up and I wasn't able but since she's only 18 months I'm not yet in a hurry. But I did learn that she is capable of holding it (which was the biggest question) and that in her mind she is supposed to go in her diaper and no where else. Now it's just a matter of major positive reinforcement for using the potty and her learning that that is a good place to go. I would suggest if your LO is not willing to sit on the little potty try the big one. He may feel more like a "big kid" and you can at least get him to sit there for a couple minutes because there is no where else for him to go. Also try letting him flush, but only have after a successful trip. My daughter loves to flush and claps and yells after she does. Sorry this was so long, I just wanted to share my experience in case it could help anyone else. Good luck to everyone!
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Permalink Reply by Julie Beals on -
Here's a little update! We've been working on the potty on the weekends lately and daycare has been working during the week, she's had several successful trips, but it is hard for me to know when she needs to go! She is 2 and doesn't tell me yet when she has the urge so here's what we do!
1. As soon as her eyes open I pull off her diaper and put her on the potty (wether she goes or not)
2. Put on big girl panties
3. Set the timer for 30 minutes
4. When the timer goes off we hit the potty, if she's already wet I still have her sit for a minute while I go get dry panties, then I set the next timer 15 minutes (that way I usually catch it) after that we go back to 30 minutes! Everytime she goes in her pants we try again in 15 minutes, if she hits the potty we do 30 minutes, if she doesn't do either we do 15) Eventually we get on the same timing and we start hitting the potty every time!
5. If she goes IN the potty she gets 3 MnM's! I also just ordered a super cute potty chart for her, it has velcro stars for each day and after 5 good shots in the potty she gets to pick out a treat! (probably from the dollar store).
There are days when she wants to go and days when she doesn't, I never push it because I don't want her to hate the potty! She's doing pretty good, we have few accidents once we get on schedule! Maybe this will help someone and if anyone is interested in a potty chart, I have the ladies facebook page, they are VERY cute and fun for the kids!!
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Permalink Reply by LaShaun Bowens on
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I don't know what Dr. Phil had to say about the method because I didn't watch the show. However, I did purchase this book called Potty Training in Less Than a Day! Guess what....it worked. Within three hours my daughter, she was one at the time, was able to leave the house and did not potty on herself. The method was not to be mean but to teach them that in any situation if you need to go you must stop and go fast to the potty. I chose this method because I didn't want to be mean to her or punish her for pottying on her self. I suggest getting the book and reading it for yourself. It took all of the stress out of potty training and I didn't have to spend lots of money on pull ups that don't teach the child when they are wet.
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Permalink Reply by patty martinez on
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Oh I just don't like Dr.Phil ,he is not a pediATRICIAN for him to be thinking he knows it all about children .
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Permalink Reply by Jasmine Alannah Burgess on
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My daughter is 14 months old and loves the potty! no shes not completely potty trained but when she wants to go she says tee-tee and we go and sit on her potty and whether she goes or not i dont care i just want her to comfortable with the potty... yes she tee-tees in her potty occasionally but not every time but regardless she gets praised for sitting on her potty, and she gets a sucker for going potty in the potty LOL... i never punish her for standing up and peeing beside the potty b/c at least she knows the potty is associated with peeing!
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