My daughter is 2 1/2. We are going nowhere with potty training...not even peeing. She is very advanced for her age. Her vocabulary is that of a 3 or 4 year old so she understands perfectly what is the potty is where the pee pee and poopy go. You can even ask her "where does pee pee go?" And she says, "in the potty". But she wont do it. She will sometimes sit on it forever but then asks me to put a diaper on her. If i notice she is going i say "lets go sit on the potty" and she starts screaming, "NO mommy... i dont want to use the potty!" I have to ad that she has had constipation problems her whole life and withholds her poop which we are working on getting under control but she wont even pee on it!!! I have tried EVERY trick... rewards, candy, treasure chest, videos, running around naked, every 15 minutes. There is nothing we havent tried. We talk to her about itShe just wont even consider it :( When she turns 3 i need to go back to work and most places wont take her until she is potty trained! Help! Anyone else have a very intelligent toddler that is refusing to use the potty? Do you think because she is advanced in other ways she is holding on to this one thing that still makes her feel like a baby?
I'd recommend talking to her about it less and simply making it inconvenient for her to have an accident. Don't scold her when she has an accident, and don't plead with her to use the potty either. When she has an accident, give her a spray bottle with vinegar water or soapy water and make her clean it up herself. Make her take her wet panties off and put them in the washer. Make her go get her own clean panties and put them on herself. Eventually, she'll get sick of cleaning up pee all day and will decide to go to the potty. For this to work, you have to be calm, but consistent. She has to be the one who takes responsibility for the clean-up every time. The tricky thing about verbally advanced children is that it is easy to forget their age. Even a gifted two year old is still a two year old, so reasoning is not necessarily going to work. Good luck!
It could be too much pressure. I would take a month off. Don't bring it up at all. Leave the potty where she can see it, but don't mention it. Don't announce that you're giving her a month off, just stop. Sometimes kids feel too much pressure to do something so they refuse, no matter what. Maybe she just needs a break.
Thank you for the advice Maggie and Jen. Maggie...what if she likes cleaning up the mess? LOL She likes cleaning :) I guess she gets that from me...I may be little OCD with cleaning. :) I do like the idea though. Maybe she will get sick of doing it. Do you recommend I comment about her using the potty while she's cleaning it up or just don't talk about it at all? And YES... I do forget she is only 2 1/2 because of her vocabulary. We actually have full conversations which makes it difficult to remember she is still only 2 1/2.
Jen..I also agree with you... I think we have been putting her under too much pressure...mostly because of the withholding issues. She sometimes holds in her poop and we chant to her "it's ok baby, dont hold it you can go..just let it out". So we are going to try and just not make a big deal of it when she does that. The whole poop, pee, potty everything..she needs a break. Maybe revisit in a month?
The first couple of days, my girls loved the clean up. Then, it started getting old. I didn't really talk to them about going on the potty when they were cleaning up. The only exception to that is that if they complained about cleaning up, I'd just say, "Well, you could go on the potty next time. Then you won't have a mess to clean up." I made sure it sounded casual, like a simple suggestion. Within a week they were going in the potty regularly. It might not be a bad idea to take a step back and wait a month, though. You don't want her to feel too pressured. I think Jen's advice it good. Just stop and see what happens. Maybe she'll surprise you and just start going on her own. Good luck.