Okay any advice would be appreciated... My son is now 16 months old and still breastfeeds whenever he wants (mainly at night). I don't want to sound like a bad parent, but I'm done with the breastfeeding. I would like any advice on how to get him weaned and maybe also get him in his crib without having to breastfeed him and have him sleep with me. Thanks
It's tough, but making a plan, and sticking to it, is the only way it will work.
When I weaned my son, I gradually changed how and when we nursed. I started out by only nursing when he asked, but never refusing. Then I started redirecting when he asked. I'd give him a bottle whenever he wanted to nurse, but if he wouldn't take the bottle, I'd give him the breast. Then I started refusing. He transitioned quickly and it was painless for both of us.
As for getting him in the crib, I'm no help. I transitioned my son out of our bed by helping him fall asleep on the couch. People really don't like when I admit that, but it worked for us, so I don't really care. He slept on the couch for maybe 2 months. Then we let him fall asleep on the couch but moved him into his bed when he was asleep. Eventually we got him to start falling asleep in his bed. We're all about the gradual approach.
So I just stopped cold turkey last week and I feel like a new person. My son will be 2 next week and I had to do it for the sake of my sanity. I wasn't nursing him often, just when I came home from work, at bedtime and some mornings but it was a drag..at least for me. I read on a previous post a few months back about a woman trying to wean her daughter. She took her daughter to the store and let her pick out a new sippy cup specifically for the night time. She explained to her daughter that it would be her night time cup every day for a week. And then one night she let her daughter nurse, but she had rubbed vinegar on her nipples and her daughter refused to nurse and voila she was done.
My story is a little different in that I had a hardcore breastfeeder on my hands. I started on a Sunday morning when I picked my son up from my parents after he spent the night. (Again, if he can spend nights with them without the boob, then he can live without it for good). I had previously tried the vinegar rub, but he went through it and didn't balk at the taste. So I this time I made a paste with baking soda and water and rubbed it on. As soon as I hit the door he was tugging at my shirt and I sat down with him and started to nurse only this time he was appalled by my white, powdery breasts let alone the taste. He jumped out of my lap and cried while starting at me for 15 minutes. Unfortunately, his booby pacifier was tainted and he was very very mad. BUT after the 15 minutes he was fine and never asked for it again. The rest of the week was rough at night, but he never once lifted my shirt to nurse. AND finally after almost 2 years of nursing and waking up sporadically every night even for 5 minutes, he slept though the night (for the first time in since he was small) this past Sunday! Sorry this was so long, but I wanted to share since this was the best thing that has happened to me since of course having him :) I loved breastfeeding and even miss it now, but I had to draw the line somewhere. I hope this give you some ideas. Good luck!
Hot sauce?! Harsh! lol but i more than understand your desperation. My son is almost 15 months old and Ive wanted to wean him since 9 months - obviously ive failed being able to ignore his cries of desperation. But! i will try the vinegar and baking soda - wish me luck!