My son is a little over 3 years old and has been potty trained with #1 since before he was 2. My dilemma is that he will NOT go #2 in the toilet. He has never went in his big boy undies but he will ask me for a diaper when he has to go. I have tried multiple different strategies...
- I have tried telling him that we were out of diapers and that if he wanted to go he would have to use the potty... He then held it for three days until finally I broke down and gave him a diaper.
- I have tried telling him that if he goes #2 on the potty he can go to the store and pick out any toy he wants.
- I've tried buying a special toy he really wants and telling him that he can't have it until he goes on the toilet.
Nothing has worked so far. My daughter is 20 months and almost completely potty trained. She will even go #2 on the potty. I thought that once she started he may want to do it because she was but I can't seem to find the right way for him. Any advice would be helpful and much appreciated.
Thanks in advance!
I had big issues getting my son to poop on the potty, too. His pediatrician recommended putting him on the potty around the time I thought he might have to poop, then have him blow up balloons while sitting on the potty. The actions use the same muscles. It sort of worked. Eventually he sorted it all out.
At the time a friend told me that her daughters had had the same issue, so she put them in diapers with the backside cut out, then had them sit on the potty chair while wearing the cutout diaper. Worked for her. I was going to give it a try but thankfully my son made the connections before I resorted to that. Good luck!
Thank You!!! Both are great ideas! I will have to try the balloon thing but I don't think that the diaper cut out will work because he will ONLY go standing. I think this might be part of the problem.
Perhaps he's having to strain more than you think when he's trying to pass a bowel movement and finds standing more comfortable. You might want to chat with his Pediatrician to see if you could introduce a small daily dose of Miralax (Walmart sells an Equate version as well). It is not a stimulant, so you don't have to worry about loose or uncontrollable bowels. It will just soften his stools so that he doesn't need to strain as much and might feel more in control and more comfortable with trying to sit down. It really just alleviates any fears he might have associated with it. Typically, once a child realizes it isn't going to hurt, or be a stressful experience (even if he might not have communicated this with you), you will be able to wean off the Miralax. Good luck!!
My daughter was similar in that she plain old didn't want to go. She'd hold it as long as possible and get all bound up, to the point she'd have belly aches making me think there was something more seriously wrong. I got the hint to sit her on the potty when I thought it might be about that time and bring a good book. One she liked and could be read over and over. I'd read the book as long as she would keep sitting on the potty. if she got tired of sitting we'd take a break and go back a half hour later and start over again. Eventually it worked and she was even hapy about it. Granted for a few weeks after I still had to read to her when she thought she might have to go, and we'd sit and eventually she'd go, but I'd much rather sit and read a book than have to clean up accidents. It really took a couple months for the whole process but it did eventually work. I wish you the best!!!
I haven't had this problem with my son yet because he's not old enough to potty train, but my aunt had the exact same problem with her son. He would potty in the toilet but when it came time to poop he asked for a diaper. He acted scared of the toilet but he didn't like the little potty chair either. We tried everything too we even tried holding onto him when he sat down to try to make him feel more secure. Someone suggested to her to put him on the toilet backwards so he was straddling the toilet. It worked and we put him on backwards for a couple weeks before he would go the normal way.