I am a stay at home mom. My son will be 3 months old on Aug 7. He is incredibly attached to me. He wants me to hold, play, or look at him all day, which I dont mind since I love my son. But in the evenings I go to the gym for 1.5 hours and leave him with his dad and he screams the entire time. I feel so bad for both of them. Even when I am at home he wont let his dad hold him. I dont know what to do. I love him, but I need just a little time to myself each day. I feel so guilty when I leave him at home, cuz I know he is screaming the entire time. How can I help him be more comfortable with his dad so I can go out without him. Please help. Any advice would be awesome. even as I am writing this he is screaming cuz daddy is holding him. AGH.
I think you are honestly going to have to bite the bullet and let him cry. If you are his primary caregiver he may not feel comfortable with his Father because he isn't familiar enough with him. When he cries after you put him down or give him to your husband do you immediately take him back to stop his crying? It sounds to me like your son and your husband need some more alone time. I know it can be hard to hear your child in distress and know you can make it stop without doing so, but you need to let him become more independent from you, even if all that means is depending on his Father.
I agree that they need to learn to sort it out together. Give your husband some tips on how your son likes you to comfort him, then let them be. I know how hard it is to hear him cry, but they need to form their own bond.
My son and husband started out the same way. One day I told my husband that he had to calm down and relax himself if he expected our son to calm down and relax. That was the kick he needed to stop panicking when my son cried. Once my son realized my husband was calm and confident, that made him comfortable enough to stop crying. Win win. Now they're inseparable. :)
Do you have a wrap or carrier that your husband could try?
Yea its just so hard to let him cry it out with dad. I have tried that a few times, but i think dad might leave us if i dont rescue him. not really he wouldnt leave us, but i know it frustrates him that he cant get his son to stop crying. I will keep trying it though. Im glad im not the only one who has this problem though. I can try the carrier thing. I dont think we have tried that yet. I will make sure dad tries that next time.