is something wrong with me

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Permalink Reply by dentalgirl on April 22, 2012 at 9:54am

How old is your daughter? Does your husband like giving you foreplay? Having a date night helps. Try reading erotic novels, like 50 Shades of Grey, those books and other ones like it will really get you hot and in the mood, I promise!

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Permalink Reply by samanths hines on April 22, 2012 at 8:51pm

could be the hormone change are you nursing or have a iud both have made my sex drive very low. We still have sex a few times a week but most of the time i am not aroused untill well into the actual sex forplay does not work for me  and we had a very very active sex life pre baby and post baby it is a healthy sex life but what it use to be!

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Permalink Reply by mommyof3 on April 22, 2012 at 9:50pm

thanks yall. he does, and he enjoys foreplay, and i do too, but i feel so bad b/c it seems like it takes me longer to get in the mood, and he'll already be there, we had a very active sex life before i had faith, but it seems like even before i had her i felt uncomfortable in my own skin. faith is 3 weeks and 2 days old.....so he hasn't rushed me or anything, but i know he has needs and he makes little comments that even though he is jokin it makes me feel bad....i think it's mostly in my mind, and i knw i'll get back into the 'swing' of things, but even the most confident woman will have doubts from time to time, but i will try the novels and any other ideas that could help

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Permalink Reply by Jen, Mom365 Host on April 24, 2012 at 9:19pm

I didn't even get the OK to have sex again until 6 weeks postpartum! Give yourself time, you're still healing, and your hormones are still out of whack.

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Permalink Reply by samanths hines on April 22, 2012 at 11:04pm

your baby is still very new you will get there again you hormones are definantly still out of whack also and i loved forplay before but now it is just not the same i still enjoy our time together but it just takes longer to get "excited". Goodluck to u! Almost every couple with a new baby goes through this at first. Also another embarrassing thing for me was my milk would leek when things started to get hot and heavy and we are not talking a few drips i mean it loooked like someone peed our bed and that was super awkward for me!!

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Permalink Reply by grimkitty1 on April 27, 2012 at 11:48pm

Do other things other than intercourse. it's important to keep your husband happy and feeling loved. Try to keep his needs in mind too.  I know I know just one more thing right? But it is important to have a happy husband who will then try to make you and baby happy so do your best.

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