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I hate my man:/
Did this every happened to one of y'all before?
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Permalink Reply by Taryn on -
I gave birth on a Tuesday, and the Saturday before my boyfriend was out at the river 3 hours away with his friend. And this is only our first baby. He would still rather be out with his friend, than being at home with us or helping.
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Permalink Reply by EastTexasMommy on -
Same boat but I love hubby but wanna rip his head off sometimes lol (figuretively). My 1st he was the every step of the way. He would jump to feel every kick. Wanted to rub my feet when I had a bad day. But now, he will not feel baby move, it 'creeps him out'. He admitted the is nothing 'sexy' about pregnancy. He has been working 60-80 hours a week. He doesn't need to but when asked he jumps and agree's to work.
I have been very upset because I feel like he isn't here. I miss having him with me. When he does come home he plays and watches movies with our daugter then goes to bed. I see him eating dinner and sleeping.
I sat down 2-3 times and discussed missing him and nothing has changed. This past weekend we finally had dad home on Saturday and Sunday. We did family stuff all day Sat and laid around watching movies together on Sunday.
Talk to him! Talk to him! Try not to yell it... It could easily turn into an argument. Maybe write him a nice letter about how you feel. We preg's can get mean and blow up quick so keep that in mind. He prob feels he need time to get out b4 baby gets here and hasn't realized you do 2 bc you take care of the kids. Good Luck. It will get better in a few months. This is usually the easy part... Add the sleepless nights (remember) and then see how things are. Just talk to him or write a letter.
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Permalink Reply by ravenwolf837 on -
Yeah and he still doesn't want to be around. He wants to do his own thing or with his friend. I want to kick him in his parts!Mine seem to not want to be a dad and this is our first. I say men suck! or they just haven't grown up yet.
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Permalink Reply by Sara Ward on -
Yes my husband likes his computer game more than me and our 3 kids he talk to the people on there more than he talks to me we don't really spend anytime together unless i need to go some where for our kids because i don't have my licenses i cant drive to get what they need so i need him to take me if it was not for that he would not get off the computer
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Permalink Reply by Chamika on -
Well Im here to say ut doesn't get better unless u put your foot down stand up for yourself let him know that you and your kids have to be a priority and not a option........
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Permalink Reply by Roxy4 on
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I was just in your shoes as well. I gave birth to our 4th not so long ago. I still feel like I was neglected & didn't have support during the pregnancy, but things are settling now. I realize that it's a stressful situation for dads, too. It's hard for them to watch us morph our bodies while the hormones take over our emotions. And although that is no excuse for the behavior, it helps to explain why they don't want to be home. Us Women are completely different from the males. And in this challenging time, they just don't understand & never will. Take care of you & your baby- ignore him. He'll come around once the baby is home & you start to go back to being you. I know it completely sucks, but it's a rough single world out there & you have a beautiful family of soon to be 3. You will all be ok. It's been almost 8 weeks for me & now is when things are finally starting to feel like they are going back to normal. Best of luck!!
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Permalink Reply by tamgia on -
Happened to me too. I left my fiance for neglecting me for the entire duration of my first (and only so far) pregnancy. He is 7 years younger than I am though. I chalk it up to immaturity and ignorance. Can you tell I'm resentful? LOL I thought being pregnant would totally bring us closer. Wrong. He even thought sex would hurt our unborn baby and effect her emotionally later in life! I couldn't believe what I was hearing when he said that. He would stay out late with friends almost every night and especially late on weekends. I moved 2500 miles away from him and LOVE living with my parents where my baby girl and I are unconditionally loved.
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Permalink Reply by MamaSusieQ on -
im sorry mama, that cant make you feel like much of a priority at all. have you tried telling him that you want him to stay home and spend time with you before the baby comes? if so, what did he say?
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Permalink Reply by sacorra on -
girl, im so glad you brought this up. i was starting to think maybe my husband though he made a mistake having a baby. we have been together for 11years and have a 7mth old and the time we spend together is the time i feel like im fallowing him around outside. i tell him over and over nothing works he always puts his friends before me and our baby. i talk to him everytime nothing help he'll never change, ill never be the 1st to him. he tells me he loves me and we are everything to him, and i no he loves us but men dont show it the way we need it. men will never understand what women want.talking will help. maybe make things sound alot worse then they really are. make him feel bad. men will never understand. women is what keeps this world going, and always cleaning up the males mess. good luck girl! :)
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