Hey everyone, I am a first time mom and need advice on how to do this or what to do. Any opinions let me know. My daughter is 8 months old and is getting a couple of teeth and it really hurts to breastfeed. I wanted to breastfeed until she was about a year, but it just hurts so bad. What should I do? How do I wean her off and how do I dry up my milk?
My son got teeth early (4 months) and continues to cut new teeth all the time. It was uncomfortable for me too but I went back to the basics of nursing and realized his latch was lazy and since then we've been fine. Nursing your daughter for a year is a great goal and this is just a speed bump in the road :) If you have your heart set on weaning, the "don't offer, don't refuse" method works good. It would be a gradual decline and at her age she is probably pretty distracted and this will make weaning easier. Good Luck :)
When my daughter tried to bite, I will either gently flick her cheek, remove the nipple (if her teeth aren't clamped around it - that's when the flicking comes in...) and usually a startled shout or "NO!" makes her stop. Then when she realizes that the nipple is gone, she gets upset, and I tell her "No biting!" She generally stops at that point. :P No fun, for sure, but the benefits in the end are well worth it. I was aiming for her first birthday, but after that, we just kept right on breastfeeding. We'll keep going until she is ready to quit. Two of my other three weaned themselves by 18 months. I quit nursing my second child at 6 months, and have regretted it ever since, so my next two nursed as long as they could. I wasn't too sure about the nursing toddler idea, but so far, they have weaned themselves before that stage.
As for drying up the milk, just use pressure, cool packs, etc, and the fullness will eventually go away.
I'm not trying to make you change your mind by any means if you have decided to wean. But here are a few things I did when my sone started cutting teeth (at 6 mos).
Like others said, when he bit, I broke his suckle and said very calmly, "no biting", or "I don't like it when you bite". After a while, he caught on. Yes, the biting does hurt, but to me, it was worth the pain. I endured a lot while bf'ing and it was a hard thing to do when EVERYONE (except my mom) wanted me to use formula. I wasn't about to stop for something he couldn't help.
And if you are dead set on weaning, the don't offer, don't refuse does work really well. It was hard for me because I wasn't ready to wean but I had to deploy with the US Army.
I don't know how to dry up milk because the things I tried didn't work. I only dried up the day after I left and he wasn't around...
You've done a great job bf'ing so far. We are all proud of you, whatever you decide!
Like the other moms said, if she bites then take her off and after a few times she'll get the picture. Also, if she's truly eating she can't bite. So it's at the end when she's just playing around that she'll start to bite. So be vigilant when the sucking starts to slow down and take her off before she has time to play. I'm sure you know the signs for when she's done eating. The bottom teeth don't really matter because her tongue covers those when she's eating. It's the top teeth that suck. I discovered my little one was getting her top teeth before we could see them because they are sharp little suckers and she was "sawing" thru my nipple when she ate. Of course she had no idea what she was doing and it took me a few days before I realized what the pain was. Once you both get the hang of her having teeth it gets better- I promise. I did a full year with my oldest and plan to do the same for my youngest too.
If you do decide to wean her, it will take a few weeks to do- unless you go cold turkey which literally hurts. Substitute a feeding with a bottle of formula and do that for about a week for each feeding. Save the feedings that you or she will have the hardest time letting go of- usually right before bed for last. I did this method with my oldest and did a full week for each feeding to give my body time to adjust. I did get a few blocked ducts so be prepared, but it's much easier for everyone than cold turkey.
Thanks everyone, I breastfed till she was 19 months, well she is 19 months right now, having trouble weaning her. I actually had her weaned for a month. My milk never dried up and now shes really needy about wanting it again for some reason.