Mom365 Community

How to nicely tell a family member to back off!

My grandmother helps out on occasion and I thank her for that. Like she watches my son so I can run to the store and stuff like that. However she's really getting on my last nerve!! I'm 36 weeks pregnant and if I'm sitting when my son is playing she makes comments like " oh don't you look comfortable" or if I tell my son no then she just turns around and lets him do whatever I'm saying no to. But the part that really pushes my buttons is when my son is about to eat and she will sit there and give him junk that I already said no to. Or when my son shows he wants something but I tell him he can't have it til after lunch or dinner and she will sit there and keep telling him to "go to mommy and she will give it to you" or say " if mommy wasn't here I'd give it to you". What the hell! And she will keep it going for an hour after I've said no not yet!! Im really starting to lose my patience with her!

What's an easy way to say back off without me seeming too mean about it

Tags: family, undermining

0 members like this

▶ Reply to This

Replies to This Discussion

Permalink Reply by Desiray Brees on February 22, 2012 at 10:55pm

I think you need to say something cause if you don't it'll keep happening and your son and child to be will think all I need they need to do is go to grandma and she will give me what I want. I don't have the problem to that extent, but I do get it a little bit, my mom would give my kids candy although I just got done telling them they have had enough. Sometimes I get the opposite when family will try to discipline my kids when I'm trying to. You just need to speak up, even if it hurts them a little, but if they care they will understand. Although it might not go away completely, at least it might ease up a little.