Hey Ladies. I'm just a bit curious. How much time on average would you say you spend doing housework, cooking, laundry, etc. in a given day? My 15 month old has been so clingy lately that I feel like I am neglecting my duties around the house. I feel kind of guilty about it, especially when my husband makes comments about this room or that looking a mess. However, I feel more guilty if I'm not giving my son the attention he seems to need. I always figure that the house can wait whereas my son can't. However, I'd like to learn how to strike a good balance. My little man does like helping me clean so when I dust, sweep, or fold clothes I usually just ask him to help me. If I give him a swiffer wand of his own or his mini-sized broom he will follow me around mimicking my behaviors and this usually buys me about 20 minutes or so at a time.
I should also add that I work full-time as a nanny so all of my housework has to be done in the evening after returning home from work. Thankfully, I get to take my son to work with me so at least I get to give him a lot of attention throughout the day. Sometimes I just think its hard on him sharing me with two other babies all day. Anyway, just wondered how you other mamas do it!
My daughter is really clingy, too. There are some days when I can distract her with an episode of Sesame Street, and other days that the dishes sit in the sink. On a less clingy day I can get a good hour or two of housework done. Some days I can't get a lick of work done.
That's funny you mention Sesame Street. My son has just started really enjoying that show and its the only way I got my "chores" done yesterday evening. Haha He watched a whole episode while I cleaned! That doesn't happen very often.
Household work always is faster done when enlising help. And I'm not talking about baby's help, but Daddy's! He is chipping in when it comes to picking up toys, doing the dishes, the laundry, making supper? I'm very lucky to have a super-helpful husband and he knows that the more help he gives me, the more quality time we can spend together. A little give, so he can take, sort of speak...
Viviane, I love that he is willing to help you! My husband has the "housework is women's work" mentality so I'm pretty much on my own. He feels that taking care of the baby, the husband, & the house is a big part of being a wife. I do love caring for my family, but considering I'm working full time as well some help would be greatly appreciated :)
This is a typical "working man's" problem. Somedays cleaning and housework are so easy and so much can get done. But most days, nothing gets done. My hubby says during nap time I could clean but during nap time I want to rest from kid duty. I finally left him here as a stay at home parent for a whole day... He doesn't say anything else about housework. He will vaccume the floor at least everyother day when he gets off work.
He has told me on multiple occasions that he is very proud of how smart our daughter is and how advanced she is. I think this makes up for it. But wow she sure can destroy a room in no time. (That is why I've made a toy room. NO toys outside of the toy room.) It gets better. Stick with a routine. No food is allowed out of the den and dinning room at our house. Bath toys must stay in the bathroom. Dirty cloths go in dirty cloths baskets. My daughter has this down and when she forgets or tries her limits, we (hubby also) remind her.
If I am lucky I am able to get 3 or 4 loads of laundry done and the dishes. I have 4 kids. 2 are luckily in school & I have a 3 year old and a 7 month old at home. I know how you must feel. I clean one room and start on another and the first room gets messy. I use to get frustrated, but had to learn that sometimes housework can wait. Also, you work and take your baby with you, still come home and clean and cook. Your hubby at least gets a break. Your job is literally 24/7. Maybe you can have a close friend or family member come take baby to the park for a while so you can clean. If not that than maybe they can come over and sit and play with him while you clean a little. Don't be hard on yourself. Super Mom's need a break too. :)