I am the WAH mother of a 2 year old. I have to go on a business trip for five days and this is the first time I have ever been away from my daughter. Her Dad is great and is completely involved with everything she does, but she is definitely is a "Mommy's Girl", Does anyone have any advice for handling the trip? Do I tell her ahead of time that I'm going? Is she old enough to understand that I'm not leaving forever? Are there tips for helping make the whole thing easier for her - and for Daddy who will be on his own while I'm gone?
Hugs, Mama. My advice is to let your little one know you'll miss her, but avoid being overly emotional about it in front of her. You don't want her to feel like there is something wrong. Try to focus on the idea that she's going to have a few special "Daddy-daughter" days. You might have your husband plan to take her somewhere special that she doesn't get to go everyday on the day that you leave. When you're saying goodbye, if she gets sad, you can remind her that she's going to have a great time at the zoo (or wherever) with her daddy. That first day will set the tone for the rest of the days you're gone. My first born is definitely a Mommy's Girl. The first time I left her with her Daddy while I went for a weekend to a church women's retreat, she cried when I left. It was heart breaking, but once I was gone, she got busy and had a blast with her daddy. The next year when the retreat rolled around, she was excited for the time with her daddy. Just remember, she'll be with someone who loves her.
Thank you so much for your reply. I like the idea of Daddy taking her some place special the day I leave. Baskin Robbins, here they come!!! And I definitely understand why I shouldn't be emotional in front of her. That's a great reminder too.
Maybe try emphasizing to her that it will be Daddy and daughter time, and not so much that you are leaving. Maybe even say it like, "Guess what?! You and Daddy get to have special time together, while Mommy has to go on a trip for work". We are going on our honeymoon in October for a week, and someone (on here) suggested bringing a computer so we can get on our webcams and see/talk to the kids while we are gone. I think this is a great idea! I used Oovoo while my mom was in Iraq (I like it better than Skype), and the kids loved being able to see her on there... so I will be using Oovoo again.