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Daughter will be 13 months old when she becomes a big sister
Hi everyone. I am a new mom I have a beautiful 5 1/2 month old daughter. I just found out on April 10 that I am pregnant again. I was not overly excited. I actually cried for days because I did not want to be. I have wanted to spend time with my daughter and let her be a kid before having another child but that is not an option now. I am hoping my daughter doesn't feel slighted when this child comes along. Any advice would be great. Thanks.
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Permalink Reply by samanths hines on -
i know that me and my sister 2 yrs apart loved eachother and were very very close and still are she will learn to share early i think it will make her happy to have a sibling so close in age in the long run! my husband is a twin and his sister came 7 yrs later and their relatioship is not close i think closer in age is better dont worry she will feel loved with or without a sibling!
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Permalink Reply by mommyof3 on -
i knw how you feel. in 2003 i gave birth to my oldest child, and when she was 7 months old i found out that i was prg with my middle child, she was born in 2004, i was not exactly happy about being prg again so soon after having my first child, but after a few weeks, and the first dr visit where i actually saw my baby inside my body, i fell in love all over again. take this time to show your daughter you have now that you do love her, and you won't love her any less once her baby brother/sister gets her, i know it sounds kinda dumb, but you can include her in things like, picking out clothes, or letting her feel the baby kick, showing her pics of the ultasound.....tht's wht i did with my oldest daughter....congrats on the coming baby....
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Permalink Reply by Jen, Mom365 Host on -
I went to school with sisters who were 10 months apart. Yes- TEN months! They were best friends. They had never known life without each other and said they felt like twins. I don't think your daughter will feel slighted, because she won't know anything except for life with her sibling. Congratulations!
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Permalink Reply by newmom1 on
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Thanks for all the support. I know I will love this child as well its just hard. Thanks for everything.
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Permalink Reply by proudmomma on -
I so can relate to you!! I have a 14 month old and found out i was pregnant again. Due in November.. i feel this is to soon but taking it day by day!! I have so many mixed emotions going on. The father chose not to be in our lives and so this puts alot of pressure on me.. Thank goodness for family!! With all their support and help i couldnt have done it without them :) good luck with your baby(s).. enjoy the time you do have with your first baby.. talk to her let her know she is going to be a big sister..either way the love is always going to be there and your baby will be fine!
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Permalink Reply by crazyhappy on
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Hello. I went through exactly what you are going through. I have a 21 month old son and a 9 month old daughter... yes they are just over 12 months apart. To be completely honest with you it is really hard at first. Your daughter will be too little to understand that another baby is coming or have any idea how that will change her life. The first two weeks after my daughter was born were the hardest days of my life. I was so happy to have her, but my son was very emotional and upset. He was still too little to tell me how he was feeling, so he just acted out. After a couple of weeks he did not even remember life without his sister and he started to like her. They are great friends now. It is the best thing in the world to just sit back and watch them play together. It will he hard at first, but know that it is really great once you get past the first couple of weeks. Accept any help that is offered because you will be crazy busy for a long time to come!
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Permalink Reply by B&T's Mommy on
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Wow! This was my exact situation 6 months ago. My son was born in October and my daughter just turned 14 months. My daughter LOVES her baby brother. It's not easy but when I see both of their faces light up when they see each other, it makes all the craziness and hard work totally worth it. My daughter doesn't even remember a world without her baby brother. Everything will work out. Best of luck!
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Thank you for the support. I just had an ultrasound done and we took our first with us so she could see her baby brother/sister. Not that she had any idea what was going on but I felt like she should be part of everything as much as possible.
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Permalink Reply by kristys on
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I have similar situation. My 2nd & 3rd are 13.5 months apart. They are still very young (under 3yrs old). I get a lot of ugly comments from strangers and acquaintances. It has been hard. But once the younger child started to walk and could actually play on her own with her sister, I saw that they had something special. There is a lot of crying over toys and copycating for my attention etc. But when they are apart they are always asking for the other one. It will be hard for you at first, but at some point it will get easier and you will see they are just fine.
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Thank you everyone for all your advice. However I will no longer be needing it. Unfortunately I had a miscarriage last week. I was 13 weeks along. I miss my baby but I have been really focusing on my daughter to get through. Thanks again for all your advice. Maybe in a year or two I'll try for another but for now I will love and play with the little angel I have. I'm sure I will always think of my other little angel but someday I will meet him or her.
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Permalink Reply by Katie, Mom365 Host on -
I am so sorry for your loss, newmom1. That must be so hard...I can't imagine. Thinking of you in this tough time.
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