Hi everyone. I am a new mom I have a beautiful 5 1/2 month old daughter. I just found out on April 10 that I am pregnant again. I was not overly excited. I actually cried for days because I did not want to be. I have wanted to spend time with my daughter and let her be a kid before having another child but that is not an option now. I am hoping my daughter doesn't feel slighted when this child comes along. Any advice would be great. Thanks.
i know that me and my sister 2 yrs apart loved eachother and were very very close and still are she will learn to share early i think it will make her happy to have a sibling so close in age in the long run! my husband is a twin and his sister came 7 yrs later and their relatioship is not close i think closer in age is better dont worry she will feel loved with or without a sibling!
i knw how you feel. in 2003 i gave birth to my oldest child, and when she was 7 months old i found out that i was prg with my middle child, she was born in 2004, i was not exactly happy about being prg again so soon after having my first child, but after a few weeks, and the first dr visit where i actually saw my baby inside my body, i fell in love all over again. take this time to show your daughter you have now that you do love her, and you won't love her any less once her baby brother/sister gets her, i know it sounds kinda dumb, but you can include her in things like, picking out clothes, or letting her feel the baby kick, showing her pics of the ultasound.....tht's wht i did with my oldest daughter....congrats on the coming baby....
I went to school with sisters who were 10 months apart. Yes- TEN months! They were best friends. They had never known life without each other and said they felt like twins. I don't think your daughter will feel slighted, because she won't know anything except for life with her sibling. Congratulations!
Thanks for all the support. I know I will love this child as well its just hard. Thanks for everything.
Hello. I went through exactly what you are going through. I have a 21 month old son and a 9 month old daughter... yes they are just over 12 months apart. To be completely honest with you it is really hard at first. Your daughter will be too little to understand that another baby is coming or have any idea how that will change her life. The first two weeks after my daughter was born were the hardest days of my life. I was so happy to have her, but my son was very emotional and upset. He was still too little to tell me how he was feeling, so he just acted out. After a couple of weeks he did not even remember life without his sister and he started to like her. They are great friends now. It is the best thing in the world to just sit back and watch them play together. It will he hard at first, but know that it is really great once you get past the first couple of weeks. Accept any help that is offered because you will be crazy busy for a long time to come!
Thank you for the support. I just had an ultrasound done and we took our first with us so she could see her baby brother/sister. Not that she had any idea what was going on but I felt like she should be part of everything as much as possible.
Thank you everyone for all your advice. However I will no longer be needing it. Unfortunately I had a miscarriage last week. I was 13 weeks along. I miss my baby but I have been really focusing on my daughter to get through. Thanks again for all your advice. Maybe in a year or two I'll try for another but for now I will love and play with the little angel I have. I'm sure I will always think of my other little angel but someday I will meet him or her.
I am so sorry for your loss, newmom1. That must be so hard...I can't imagine. Thinking of you in this tough time.