My 11mth old boy, girl twins are biting and pinching. I try really hard not to get angry but sometimes they will just walk up and bite me on my belly or my toe or whatever skin is showing. I am not sure if they are doing it to get my attention, theething or just what. I could really use some advice or even if someone has gone through the same thing with their babies. My main concern is that I am also expecting another child in Sept. I don't want the twins biting and pinching the new born and so I figure I better figure out something to do about it now. Any and all suggestions would be helpful.
I wish I could help but I didnt know what to do with my son when he did it... I was told try biting back if you are comfortable with that. or time out...
niether worked for me, but every kid is different! It might for you.
Doesn't biting them back just confuse them? You say "no bite" or "we don't bite" but then you bite them. Do as I say, but not as I do? I don't agree with that. Just my own opinion. For us, when she bites, she gets put down and we stop playing with her for a moment. We explain to her that biting hurts. Then when we pick her back up we tell her "I will hold you again, but if you bite me then you go back on the floor". Works for us. Her biting episodes are fewer and far between, and now when she does it she immediately starts doing "nice nice" and patting us to say she's sorry. She's getting it.
My twin boys were biters/pinchers too (it's gotten much better now). I say "No bite!" very sternly and kinda tap my finger on their mouth... kinda like you you shhhhhhh someone w/ your finger. Or if they pinch then I gently tap them on the hand and say "no!"... then I make a sad face and say "Ouchy!". Then I show them the correct way to behave by nicely petting and saying "Nice!"... they repeat what I do and even say "nice". At your daughters age I first just did the "no bite" and gentle tap on the mouth... and then I added all the other steps later when they could understand better.
Tell them "no!" In a stern voice. I think it is ok to show them your anger on occasion. They are learning emotions so letting them see you are mad or sad is ok as long as your actions are appropriate. After all, telling them "that hurts" without showing pain is a bit confusing. I will be controversial and say a startle swat works wonders on this age group.