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Hello all,
I have a 16 week old infant, and it's that time where I'm getting ready to go back to work. It is getting harder knowing that I need to return to work but only one income does not cut it for me. How can I make it easier for me to return to work knowing that I have to travel and be gone Monday thru Friday returning home only for the weekend. On this this while I was pregnant but now I have my little man. I won't even be in the same state. I return to work October 1st and I will be working in Memphis. It breaks my heart knowing that I won't be around during the week. I am tempted in looking for a sitter but would like the sitter to stay in my hotel where I will be. I will be out on the road for at least 2 years, after Memphis sometime in December I will be in Nebraska.
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Permalink Reply by samanths hines on -
That is so sad. Can you get a different job? Paying a sitter to stay with you and babysit that much might make it not worth it to work. We lived on one income I breastfed and it was free to have a child especially if you use cloth diapers. Either way good luck I could not imagine the stress it would cause you and your baby.
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Permalink Reply by Jen, Mom365 Host on -
I can't even begin to imagine. I would try to find a way to bring him with me, or I would find another job. I know that might sound harsh, but I couldn't be away from my babies for that long.
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Permalink Reply by sgerini on -
If you are going to be in the same location, why not look for day care there?
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Permalink Reply by EastTexasMommy on -
I am sorry that staying at homeis not a financial option. But Cali to Memphis is a long way. Have you thought about relocating? Finding a local job? I like what sgerini said about finding day care in Memphis. Maybe there is someone in your family that would love to go with you? A friend had her grandmother come intown M-F when her hubby worked, she had her own room and helped with the 5 boys. She went home on the weekends for a break. Good Luck.
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Permalink Reply by Shannon, Star Mom on
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Wow, this is a terrible situation to be in. Is it possible to remain close to home w/ a less paying job... if you can afford to pay a nanny to be w/ you in your hotel (not sure about your location, but around here in the outskirts of DC it would be at the very least $500 a week). Can you deduct what you would otherwise pay a nanny from your pay you make now to see what kind of job you can find locally at that pay. I have had a few job opportunities in the last couple years making almost double what I make now w/ a 2 hour commute one way each day, but my current job is 5 minutes from home and just 5 minutes from my 23 month old twin boys... one has asthma problems so working a job further from home is not an option for us right now. I cannot imagine being away from my children a whole week, that would just be terrible... I really feel for you! There has to be some other job opportunity. These first years of life are so precious, and they don't last very long... to have to miss that much time in your childs life would just be heartbreaking.
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Permalink Reply by tamgia on -
i have a 5 mo old so my heart just breaks for you, i'm so sorry you are put in this position.
my own situation is similar in a way. my fiance was not emotionally or physically available to depend on for support, let alone financially able to support the 3 of us. so i decided to move across the country to live with my parents so i wouldnt have to a) live in a woman's shelter or b) spend (the best time of) my life away from the center of my world.
challenges in life are meant to break molds. listen to your creative mind and your heart whatever you feel you want is a choice and an option.
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Permalink Reply by Bright777 on -
Did you no that you would have to to this when you got pregnant?? Everyone else is being nice but I say you NEED to get another job or relocate. After you have a baby, it's no longer about your and your dreams and goals... its about their well-being. If you can't live on one income, re-thin* your expenses: down size the house, lower car payments, cut bac* on luxuries, change your cable/internet/phone plans, etc. Do whatever you have to do.
As an adult, I have seen far too many adults who are NOT well adjusted because the parents wor*ed too much... this includes my father and his siblings' with their dad. You can give your sweetheart everything money can buy but in reality he just wants mommy and daddy. You always hear parents mention all the 'sacrifices' they've made.... this will be one of them.
Would you rather be remembered as a good business woman or a great mom?? My grandfather is 76 now and tells me every time we spea* how he regrets wor*ing so much and not being closer to his *ids. He's divorced (twice) and going to die a lonely millionaire. I love him so much but you determine your own life. :(
We all hope and pray that you come to the right decision for your son!
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Permalink Reply by ezlezbr on -
Thank you all for your responses. It's not a permanent job, I volunteered to be on a project for the company that I work for. I wasn't expecting to get pregnant while on the project. I don't think I'm a bad mother, I will be taking my baby with me every other month and I will be working from home one week out of the month.
I was talking to a friend and she has her son and daughter-n-law in the Navy. Her daughter is expecting and is due in December as soon as the baby is born her son will be deployed 6-8 weeks after the mom will be deployed for 2 months. How do they do it?
I'm not in the Navy but I do work for a pharmaceutical company where we supply hospitals with their medication supplies. When a hospital calls in an emergency order for a patient life or death situation and you are part of making sure the medicine makes it to the hospital ASAP it's a great feeling knowing that you helped save a life.
With all my PTO that I have I will be spending plenty of time with my little man. All the holidays and I will be taking all of May off to spend it with the baby. It will be hard but I will always be on Skype or Facetime talking and reading to my little guy. Again thank you all for the replies.
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Well, only you know what is best for you and your family. If you feel comfortable and okay with whatever you can arrange so you can work on this project, than that is all that matters. Having compassion and knowing you are making a difference in your work is important too... it's hard to find employment where you get that much fulfillment out of it. It sounds like you've worked out a great plan to balance it all out, Good Luck!
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