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Baby is driving me insane!
So I just came back from Cairo where I was a SAHM and I had a nanny/housekeeper who helped me with my daughter so there was always someone holding her. Now that I am back in the states not only am I not able to hold her constanly but I just can't and I am styaing with my Grandparents who are elderly so they can't hold her all day either. She is 7 months old so she is eating solids occasionaly. Here is my dilema:
1. I am still breastfeeding but also trying to introduce a bottle that way I can sometimes have help feeding her.
2. I have no schedule and I was wondering if anyone would give me an idea for a schedule.
3. I feel bad when she cries but it seems like the only time she doesn't cry is if I am holding her, and only me.
So basically I am just asking for advice because I am about to go crazy!!! She is teething I think she has two bottom teeth but if she were in pain from the teeth than she would still be crying when I hold her and literally I will pick her up she stops crying put her down she cries, pick her up she stops etc.
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Permalink Reply by Christina Cranfill on -
i have little experiance with new babies. my daughter is 5 months old. However, i have worked in childcare for 5 years. sounds like you need to let her cry it out. she knows if she does this...you will do that. cause and affect. if you cant emotionallyhandle "cry it out" maybe try letting her cry a little bit longer each time to help you and her slolwly break from it. maybe let her cry for fifteen min then pick her up and comfort her then set her back down and keep it up. sooner or later she will understand she wont win. its not mean. its tough love. she needs to soothe herself. you cant be with her 24/7
get her to wake eat and nap the same time every day. my daughter wakes at 9am. eats every 2 hours and takes 3 naps a day. nap at 11am....2pm...5pm goes to sleep at 9 everyday. structure hepls a child feel less stress cause they know what comes next. if its her teeth give her some oralgel see if she calms down.
i am still a l new mom but if u get her everytime she cries she will expect it always and sooner or later u will need to break that habbit.
thats just how i would handle it. good luck
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Permalink Reply by Bethany Ann, Star Mom on
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I'm still working on letting my 5 1/2 month old "cry it out". She is usually pretty entertained but at night if she wakes up she expects to be held, and I'm working on not going into her.
I don't imagine there's a huge difference between 5 1/2 and 7 months, but I could be mistaken. But here is my daughter's schedule...
Wakes at 8am-eats 7 ounces
play (I switch her from her exersaucer to the floor and sometimes get down and play with her)
Nap at 930am
Wake at 1030am
plays, then eats 7oz at 1130-12
Nap from 2-4
eats 430 7oz
nap 6-715
eats solids and 7oz
asleep for the night 9-930
You have to find a schedule that fits her. What does she do now? Most babies will have at least a general schedule of their own, so maybe take a couple days and pay attention, write down when she does everything and then form your own schedule from there. Once you get one set, stick to it. I time my outings around her, if I make an hour drive to my hometown I do it during her afternoon nap, etc.
As far as a bottle...I don't breastfeed so I can't offer personal advice. I've heard a lot of mother's say their babies won't take a bottle from them because they are accustomed to their breast and are confused. Since you're wanting to have other people help it shouldn't be a problem, probably more just her getting used to other people feeding her. If she's hungry enough she'll eat, you just have to be stubborn with her.
Also, work on letting her cry it out. You can do that several ways. You don't have to just let her cry, but avoid picking her up. If she's sleeping and wakes up middle of the night, pat her back and sing, but do not pick her up. If you want you can let her cry for 20-30 minutes before going into her. Sometimes babies will wake up momentarily, and would normally go back to sleep on their own but the parents go in too quickly. If she's playing, get down and play with her a little but again, don't pick her up. Also pay attention to how long she's been playing. My daughter will play about 30 minutes and then she is irritated so I will either pick her up or put her in her exersaucer and she'll be content with the change of environment. Their attention spans aren't very long yet, so some of your daughters cries could be from boredom.
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Permalink Reply by madiha bekali on -
i feel a same thing with my baby she's 8 month now , she's teething she has 5 tooth now , two up and three bottom . my baby want eat solids every day
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Permalink Reply by Amanda, Our365Host on -
It sounds like maybe she's also still dealing with the transition/move. Could you get a carrier (Ergo, sling, etc) to wear her so she feels close and secure, but your hands are free?
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Permalink Reply by Mandi, Star Mom on
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I was going to reccomend an Ergo Baby Carrier. I've had mine since my daughter was 6 mos old. She's a little over 2 & 35lbs & I can still put her in it. It's awesome because you can put her on your back & continue to do whatever it is you need to get done, you can also move her around to the front & nurse in it as well.
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Permalink Reply by Jessica on -
I have 3 kids (my youngest 9 months)...it passes quicker than you think. You will blink and she will be out of that phase. Just about everything in babies lives is a "phase." Schedule's seem to work the best. I let my kids cry it out at night when they were old enough (5-6months), and during the day, I pick up my little one if I'm not busy w/ other chores...but sometimes he cries for a bit until I can get to him. I don't really agree with hard and fast rules like "don't pick them up no matter how hard it's tugging on your strings." I think babies need love and reassurance as much as food/sleep etc. I will occasionally pick up my son at night if he's screaming and it has been unusual to check him out, give him medicine if he needs it, and rock him just a few minutes. He will cry when I put him back down, but it usually is near as dramatic and stops soon after. I think that let's him know I'll comfort him, but not rock him back to sleep. My kids are all different and my middle one hardly ever needed picking up and didn't cry as much as my oldest and youngest. By the way...I used "Babywise" for all 3 of my kids for a schedule...I swear by it...sleep, am wake/eat, play, nap, wake/eat, play, nap, wake/eat, play...eat for bedtime...sleep for nite.
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