I am currently getting ready to go back to school (please don't judge) but my daughter will not sleep at night. I have no clue how I am supposed to get up everyday and not fall asleep in class. It's not even the fact that she cries at night because she's a very quiet baby, it's just she won't sleep and I don't want to go to sleep on her. I honestly don't have that much help either so it's twice as hard. I am young and still have a lot to learn. I just need some advice please.
First thing- this is probably one of the toughest phases to adjust to.... and with time it will get MUCH easier, I promise! Right now your daughter is learning her sleeping cycle and adjusting to it in this new surrounding.... Ways to help her learn night is for sleeping and daytime is awake time is by whatever time you are ready to go to bed (or put her down for bed) keep the household calm and quiet, make sure there is no light where she sleeps (maybe just a night light), soft music, soft voices, etc... during the day do as usual- normal household noises (vacuum, doing dishes, talk normal don't try to talk quietly even if she is napping, tv on, etc.... oh and allow for the sunlight to shine in). Does she go to a daycare or is she at home home w/ someone? If at home, tell them to keep the household 'uppity' during the day (not meaning keep her awake... allow her to maintain her sleeping/feeding interval, but do normal household/day-time activity and don't really make an effort to be quiet about it so that the baby can begin to distinguish days from nights and realize night time is for sleeping). Anyway, it's a big adjustment not just for us, but for the babies as well... we just have to kinda guide them in the right directions with 'signals'. Does she have a bed time routine yet? It's still pretty soon, but I started w/ a bed time routine w/ my boys from day one (twin boys)... wish someone would have told me how beneficial a bed time routine would be long term w/ my first... but anyway, a bed time routine was the best thing that ever happened to us lol! Just an example- I would do bathtime at about 6 pm, then quiet/snuggle time, last bottle, then to bed lights out w/ soft music and night light on at about 7pm... every single night religiously! My boys are now almost 2 yrs old and every sigle night they are in bed by 6:30/7pm lights out no crying, sleep through night, etc.... of course after following pretty much the same routine since they were born! Hope this helps, I promise with time things will get easier on you :)
First, no one should judge you for going back to school!! Good for you...it'll be rough, but worth it in the long run! I think ALL new moms have a hard time with this!
The main thing that helped my LO at night was a 'bedtime routine'. I feed her, we play a little bit,(or when she was a newborn - snuggled) then bath time, play a tiny bit more, then read her a story, Then she goes to bed. And for several weeks, we read her the same story, just to help with the routine.
It's different for every baby, just keep trying, don't give up! Good luck to you!
Hang in there! I know how rough it is in the beginning ( i have a 5 week old daughter who refuses to sleep at night too) but it will get better over time. I would suggest trying to put your baby in bed with you with a safe co-sleeper. My children all slept much better when they were in bed with me. I am also in school full time, I work, and I have 4 children so I know how hard it is. Also try and bathe your baby right before you and her lay down at night...a lot of times the warm water will relax and soothe babies and they will sleep better/longer. It is hard with your first child...especially when you are young and dont have much help. Try some of those things and see if any of that helps. Good luck and I hope you both will be getting some sleep soon!
I know your pain. I've been doing the family bed, babies don't like to feel alone and I think when they can see you they feel more relaxed and comfortable.
If she isn't fussing, there is no reason why she can't lay in her crib while you take a nap. As long as you are able to get up when she fusses/is hungry/ etc. It is wonderful that you are staying in school. Stick with it, it gets easier. I bought a rock style sleeper for my little one that I put right next to my bed. That way when I need a nap I can sleep and still keep him close. Hope everything works out for you! Stay strong!!